I've tried being gentle and she's not hearing it. She's always complaining that she had no family and no one around to help when my cousin is right there practically begging to help and all Grandma can do is to accuse of these awfull things.
I'm sure that it sucks to get old and Grandma has been through alot of shit in her day. She's looking into retirement centers this weekend so hopefully she'll find a nice one.

I just don't know what to do. I can't listen to the cousin bashing anymore and it breaks my heart to have my cousin ask why Grandma hates her.