Never thought I would join you all

[SourMilk]

But here I am. Legally sperated and now a single mom :crybaby

This is crazy.

Me and the kids will be living with my mom for awhile as a stepping stone...

I was wondering, should I get ds into counseling? Or wait it out. This is all so new to me.

[Muse]

Welcome :grope

I read your post on the ME, and it sounds like you are doing everything you need to do. If you think your ds would benefit from counseling, by all means make the appt.

[_DJ_]

Sorry to hear that Sour, I was watching your thread on the ME too. :grope

Maybe you two can works things out, who knows, but let me offer some words of encouragement in case it doesn't.

Life will get easier. It may even surprise you that life can be BETTER than it was when you were married. Concentrate on doing what is best for you and your children, and the rest will just fall into place. Set some short-term goals for yourself and focus on that. That's what helped me get through the moments when I thought the pain was going to overwhelm me.

Good luck and strenth vibes to you. :itsok

[stumt]

Hey,
Don't be so down, you're doing everythign just fine.
I never thought I would be here either but look at me single mother of two. Worst is that now me and their dad aren't together he doesn't even try to support them and I've already taken him to court, got an order of support, lost lots of hours from work(which means a short pay check) and he still doesn't pay, doesn't even call to see how they're doing.
So some of us might just be a little worst but, still hangin in there.
You can try what I say " for everything bad, there's something good" you just have to find it sometimes.
Mine is he might not care about them and I might have had to live with my mom for a few month unitl I got back on my feet but, now we're living on our own and we're on our feet.
So when the kids are big enough they'll see who did what and who really cared. That's enough for me.

[gstringdiva]

Being a single mom isnt the worst thing in the world. I actually like it :love

[Robean]

Have you ever heard of DivorceCare? It's a Christian thing (not sure of your religious persuasion, if any), and a lot of churches offer it. You can go to Divorcecare.com to find a location.
It was good for me AND for my daughter. They fed us dinner (for free), then we watched a short (kinda hokey) video while my daughter went with kids her age to do a program (called kidshare) - also free. Afterwards, we split into small groups for discussion.
Anyhoo, you do NOT have to be divorced to go, just separated. It's actually more helpful early on - by the time the divorce is actually final (especially in THIS state), you have already "worked through" a lot of stuff.
I loved it. Free dinner, free child care, and friends who knew exactly what I was giong through.
Hang in there! The first year or so is HELL, but once the "dust settles" you might find that you are actually happier and/or better off than you were before the split.
:hello