anyone with 4 children

[Becca]

Does anyone here have four children (or more)?

I'm seriously considering adding one more child to our family. Some days I think that I am just plain nuts and other days I really want to have another baby.

Is there a big difference going from three to four? How do you cope?

My children are 8, 4 1/2 and 13mths.

Any insight would be helpful.

[GreatScot]

Mine are 9, 6, 3 and 2. I love having a large family.

Is it more difficult? Not in my opinion. The only drawback for me was having the fourth while the second was still three years old. My body, my mind, my spirit, hasn't had a rest since 1996.

[witchybitch]

I have five, they are 15,12,8,4 and 1 1/2. I don't feel that it is any more difficult to have five than it is to have two. It's just a lot more fun. More ball games, more school functions and a lot more mile stones!

[jenandrob102701]

i have 4 and their ages are 7,4,3,and 1 i wanted to have a big family and have kids close in age

[Shutup]

I am going on four in August,then I am stopping :lol
Best thing EVER is to had a big family :) IMO

[mouthySCUM]

We have an 11yo, 7yo, 4yo and 20 month old. It is a bit more work but not overwhelming. The only thing I have noticed is more dishes and laundry :lol When the last babe was first born I noticed next to no difference, it is as she has become one of the gang that it feels like 4 kids. It is a blast though and honestly no more stressful then 3, at least not for me. To be completely honest though, I do have moments of guilt when I think there may not be enough of me to stretch around. I am very big on buidling special and individual relationships with each child, and each child with each parent. So, the workload is not such a difference but it does get more difficult to stretch yourself out individually.


That said...I am so farking done :lol

[Willow]

I'm pregnant with #4. When this baby comes, my kids will be 6, 3 1/2, and 20 months. I think 4 is a great number. I had a hard time dealing with an odd number of kids. :lol

[kealoha]

I am currently pregnant with number 4. It's reassuring to hear that it's not that much more difficult! When this one is born, my kids will be 4, 3, 1, and newborn. I'm just grateful my oldest is starting Kindergarten in September! I'm going to have all four of them at home for a few months though!

[Albie]

I have 4, eleven, nine, four, and 23 mo. For me the 4rth dramatically changed my life. I quit my job and spend my time caring for my family. I had to worry about her, the 4rth's, health so much it changed the way I parented, she is fine, just makes me worry a lot because she is so little. I think my life is much better now. I can have a career anytime, these little children need me now. I love having a big family, we giggle a lot together, I couldn't imagine life any other way.

[Guimme mO'Meds]

I have four boys: 6, 4, 2, and 3.5 mos. I think it is easier when they are spread out more, but adding the baby to our mix has made things very difficult. The first three were easy babies. I hardly knew what to do with myself; they were so easy. It was quite a shock to have a high-needs, colicy baby with reflux, who sceams if he's laid down and nurses every 2 hours or less well into his 4th month! It's hard to make sure everbody gets the attention they need, including ourselves (well I get lots of computer time with all the nursing.) However, it's already getting somewhat better (or maybe we're just getting used to it), and I'm sure in a few more months I'll have forgotten all about this! Umm--I hope!

Going from 3-4 can mean a vehicle change if you don't already have something with third-row seats. It could still mean a vehicle change if you need to remove/fold down the third-row seat for cargo room.

But, who's to say your fourth won't be a breeze. In hindsight though, I'd have waited at least 2 more years. DH and I were both in school (well he still is) we already had a kid in diapers (never fun to have 2 in diapers--especially if you use cloth) and it would have been so much easier to have everyone else in school when the baby was born. Plus, DH would have been done with school, and I probably would have been done. As it stands right now, I have a little over two years to finish mine. I'm just hoping they'll grant me an extension, because I know I'll never be able to finish by then. I actually do want one more, but we are waiting until I'm done with school.

[mommy4]

4 here

9,6,3, almost 10 months

I love it.

My biggest hurdly right now is my just turning 3 yr old is a handful.

So she puts a twist in anything we do.

I LOVE having a big family.


Not always easy but always interesting and fun.

[Hester]

I have six, I don't think it is as chaotic as most people seem to think it would be. The only trouble I have is that I am becoming menopausal now, and I get confused/forgetful/upset easily.. so that complicates things a little. Moms of just one or two go through that too, i suppose, though.

[Babydoll]

I don't think a lot changes after you add the 4th. The first year is rough, but I always thought that it took about a year to adjust after adding another baby. Then you find your routine and things go pretty smoothly. The thing I might have done differently if I could go back and change it would be to make sure that they were all at least 3 years apart.