Instead of starting a whole new thread, I thought I would just add onto this one.

We have an alarm now that I keep on all of the time until I just feel "safer". Her dh is home now because the charges were dropped. This does help me to feel safer as well. I don't think that she will come over and hurt ds and I, but you never know what a crack addict will do.

That being said, I lock ALL of the doors, including the door from the garage leading to the outside. Does that make sense? This is mostly because of the posessions that we have in the garage and my truck.

Instead of dh trying to help me through some paranoia he is belittling (sp) me about it. His words are "overboard, overreacting, and paranoid" because I want to keep that door locked. Basically it is an inconvenience to him. So? I think it is a small price to pay for me to feel safe.

What do you think?

I think that you are doing everything right. Apparently your DH has never had to deal with a tweaked out person who will do anything for some money, including breaking into a house and stealing others' posessions.

Ignore him, he'll be happy if the alarm does catch the lady trying to break it. You can't trust those types so long as they continue to do the drugs. Keep your family safe.

I think that your husband is either totally naive about what crack addiction, is or he is in denial. Or incredibly lazy. Which I doubt.

Do you know any cops, people in recovery, addiction counselors, etc., who could school him a little? It is worth it, IMO, considering what addicts are capable of.

unfortunately.

I have a family member like this, and they will do anything to anyone for a rock. It is sad and unfortunate for her kids and family, but you have to protect YOUR family. Good luck.

Sorry I just saw your last post.

I agree with Mab, I dont think he understands what that drug addiction can do to a person. My father was always a good, hard-working man. Even though he and my mother were divorced, he paid his child support faithfully, and I saw him regularly.

About 4 years ago he met this woman (and Im not placing ALL the blame on her, but a good bit) who was very into methamphetamine. To make a long story short, my father became an addict, lost his rights to visit my brother (who is only 11) and lost his job of 15 years that he was going to retire from. He also lost my respect, and the right to know his grandchildren.

Drug addiction is very serious. Please keep your family away from her.

Im glad you have an alarm and keep your doors locked.

Eeeps,,that is scarey. Makes me wonder what my neighbors do now,,lol