dear dolphin, i am sorry to hear about your step-father. cancer is a horrible thing for any family to go through. i lost my grandfather last year to cancer fo the stomach and throat. he was like my own father and we were very close.
it was hard to tell my son, who was turning five at the time, that his popa was dying. the two of them were also very close, as we lived next door to one another.
it is amazing how children can develop a strong sense of where they are in the universe, how life works, and how to find strength in spirituality. he was amazing. he was a real touch stone for me.
although we don't want to tell our children such things and protect them from the ugliness in life, we have to do it. it is our job as parents to teach our children the trials of life and how to deal with them. our instincts tell us to shelter our children, but we have to do whats right in the end.