Growing up I was very close to my moms sister. I spent my summers with her, holidays, etc. I would have rather her been my mother. My moms family has never gotten along and around 15yrs ago we cut off contact with all but this sister. Things were "ok"(lots of background that sucks, there were some arguments over me though) between her and my mom, until I decided to get married at 20. She wasn't happy, but it was my decision.

Something happened on the phone with her and my mom one day and that was it. I haven't heard from her since. My mom won't tell me what happened and to be honest I wonder if my mom told her I didn't want to speak to her anymore either.

Fast forward almost 10yrs later and I still miss my aunt. I'm conflicted on contacting her. As far as I know she has made no effort as far as I know, but neither has my mom. I want her to know I am happy and to know how she is.

Would you contact her or just leave it alone? I really don't want to start something with my mom and I know it will. But as an adult I get to make my own choices now and I have had that talk with my mom many times. I'm just torn.

Ask youself this, if she died tomorrow how bad would you feel? Your answer will likely tell you your next move. Life is too short. I say you contact her and just leave your mom out of it all together. You are a big girl now, she does not need to know who you talk to on your own time.

Good luck.

I second little_dem.

little_dem



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