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post #1 of 4 (permalink) Old 08-22-2006, 11:15 PM Thread Starter
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Just feeling very, very sad

My paternal grandfather has been suffering from dementia for the past 3 years. Over the past year or so, it has gotten much worse. I haven't been able to visit him in the past 2 years or so, between the kids school schedules, being pregnant, and stuff that comes up with DH's family.

My grandfather, before the dementia, was one of the most wise and intelligent people I knew. Of my maternal grandparents, it always felt that he was the only one that really loved and approved of me when I was young. In my family, that whole "it takes a village to raise a child" is very true, and when I was a teenager and not getting along so well with my dad, I knew I could go to Grandpa for guidance.

By what my mother and brother tell me, Grandpa is functioning on the level of a 5 year old now. He's had a stroke, he's incontinent, stuck in a wheelchair... he doesn't recognize my brother anymore, so I doubt he'll remember me.

It breaks my heart to hear that he's like this, and while I'd rather remember him the way he was the last time I saw him, I know I'll regret it if I don't see him at least one more time, at least so I can come to terms with what he's become.

My youngest cousin (on Dad's side of the family, his older brother's dd) is supposed to be undergoing a bone marrow transplant this month (need to touch base with my aunt (Dad's sister) to see where things stand with her. Cousin is 12, and has some kind of leukemia going... I'm getting all this information 3rd-4th hand. Poor girl has been through so much. She was dx'ed with a cancerous brain tumor 6 years ago, and managed to fight her way through that, and now this. She had a stroke this summer too, and spent most of the summer in the hospital between that and fighting a nasty strep infection.

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post #2 of 4 (permalink) Old 09-06-2006, 10:24 AM
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I'm so sorry. I was very close with my maternal grandfather and miss him terribly to this day, so I can relate somewhat with what you're going through.

Try to focus on the fact that he's had (hopefully) a long, full life prior to this and on the happy memories the two of you shared before his illness got really bad.

That's very sad about your cousin as well. Has she had the transplant yet?

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I saw my aunt a couple of days ago, and she said that my cousins transplant was rescheduled for the end of this month because she had some kind of infection that she's since been able to kick, so now it's just waiting and trying to avoid getting any more bugs.

I got to see my grandfather too. His physical health is improving... he's walking with a cane now, and with that mobility, he's able to use the restroom with some help. At least he's got that little bit of dignity back.
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