Daughter doesn't give a damn
I raised my daughter on my own. No family to help me and no support from her father. I was with her 24/7 without a break and even during breast cancer discharged myelf from hospital because she couldn't cope alone. Got her thru University, gave her all the support she wanted and needed and assured her she was beautiful, loved and special.
She met a boyfriend from 10 yrs ago and within 3 months moved to another country to live with him. I am as pleased as can be, he is great and spoils her and intends to marry her soon.
Problem is, I moved half way around the world because she said they would move here in 2 yrs and she wanted to live near me and it would be easier, for me, to visit her, from where I am.
Then announces, they won't move here, because her boyfriend will miss his family. His parents are 45 yrs old. They have an extended family who all care for each other.
All I hear from my daughter is how much care, financial support and help her boyfriend gives to his mother and brother. She never asks how I am, how I am coping living alone and doesn't want to know, if I'm down for a while.
She is always making these generous offers, which never eventuate, it's all talk. I am 60 and in a few years I probably won't be able to work. I have very little savings after being a single mother. Now my daughter tells me they will take care of me and I can return to the country we came from to get a pension and they will move there too in a few years. In the next breathe, she tells me, that her boyfriend wants to keep his current job for a few years and travel for a few years after that.
It absolutely kills me to see my sisters and friends, with their daughters around them, visiting almost every day to make sure their mom is OK, involving their mom in their lives, caring and giving to them.
My daughter visited me when I first got here and was living in one room in a dump of a flat, because it was cheap, until I found a job. She offered to help me get somewhere better until I got work, until her boyfriend told her they couldn't do it. My daughter earns reasonable money and her boyfriend is on an excellent salary.
Yet all I hear is, the large sums of money spent on his mother who is an alcoholic and his brother who won't work.
I really wonder, how is it, that if you stand by your kids and support them, that you end up with the least consideration or help. I truly believe, that my daughter will not help me as I age and prefers that I am at a distance so that she does not have to witness the needs I will have at that time, and continue to make false promises. I am really hurt and angry with her and don't know how to get past it. Stupidmom