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post #1 of 19 (permalink) Old 03-06-2009, 03:31 PM Thread Starter
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DH is deploying very soon for a year. I have a FT job, and also work 2 nights a month at the roller rink. My FT job really isn't FT. I work every morning, but typically have every other afternoon off because the practice is slow and there's no point in both the other girl and I being there if there's only a few appointments. Over the summer, I will likely have to pay more in daycare for the kids than I'm actually bringing home. I'm considering quitting my day job when the kids get out of school. I like my job, but it's not really economical for me to be working if there is no profit margin after daycare costs. Money won't really be an issue, as DH will be making a decent amount of money overseas. I feel torn. I've only been there since the beginning of October and I don't want to seem like a flake, but I don't want to be flushing money down the toilet all summer either when I could be spending time with the kids doing fun stuff and just being with them more in general since DH won't be around.
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I'd spend time with my kids if your DH's paycheck is enough to keep you afloat.

Working just to pay daycare seems like a timesuck.
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Quit. You'll still have derby and you'd have to pay for childcare then too.

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I would take the summer off and think about it. It'll be good for you and the kids. I think you have been overworking yourself and it would be good for you. Come aug/september you can start looking for another job if you want and daycare wouldn't be as spendy.

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I would quit. Actually, i did quit my job when my dh left. It would have been a similar situation for us, spending more for daycare than i was making.
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Explain your situation and see if they'd be willing to let you come back when the kids start school again. I bet they wouldClick here to enlarge
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I could make more than enough if I went back to work but I really I'm not ready and DH could give two shits. I love being home when the kids get here and don't want to be away from them. We can afford it right now. Decision made.

As long as you have an outlet (skating) I'm sure you'll be fine. Enjoy your summer I say.
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Explain your situation and see if they'd be willing to let you come back when the kids start school again. I bet they wouldClick here to enlarge
This. See if there is some kind of happy medium to reach. For example the girl might want the first half of the summer off and you could work full time and make enough to cover day care and clear some over and above. And then you take the 2nd half off and take the kids out of day care and save the money. Either way, talk to your employer about it to see if there is something that can be done to either work enough hours to cover day care or to take time off unpaid and come back later.

I don't think I'd bring it up until closer to school being out, though.
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I think you should quit, so someone who actually wants to work, can. Click here to enlarge
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I think you need to grow up a little bit. I think your DH will have enough to worry about being deployed. Being deployed and the sole supporter of this family seems to be asking to much from him. What does he say?

You could suggest 3day/2day job split that rotates every other week if the job is slow. That would cut down on childcare costs and give you extra days with the kids over the summer.
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By all means, have more time for fun out with your friends...err, I mean kids.
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I do want to work. I love my job, it's just not economical to stay there if I'm paying more to be there than I'm making. duNO
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I agree with this. Click here to enlarge

If you can leave on good terms and let them know that summer is going to be rough on the finances with your husband deployed. If his pay can keep you in the black, the stability of you being home might help the kids as they transition to their stepfather being gone.
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I talked to my boss today. In the event we couldn't work something out, I wanted to have plenty of time for him to find a replacement and for me to train him/her in. It went really well, and I'll be getting a raise. Click here to enlarge
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who tagged this in a SUPPORT forum? shit bags.
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