Juni, I can understand your frustration, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
You absolutely HAVE to take the psych appointment, turn in the paperwork for the ADHD eval, and start the process for whatever ‘treatment plan/program’ they’re suggesting and all the rest of the stuff that seems like garbage that you can’t wait for.
There is no quick fix. None. Nothing. It’s unfortunately the name of the game, to hurry up and wait. In a way it’s a good thing - you don’t want to rush through the process of evaluating, diagnosing and treating a mental illness or developmental disorder.
As for medication - I’m guessing that you’re talking about insurance not covering medication until you’re in a prescribed treatment program.
If you do have an MD who is wanting to prescribe:
1) plain old Ritalin is pretty cheap out of pocket, I think.
2) Many doctors offer samples for medication, depending on the type - even Psychiatrists.
I’m not sure how it works in the US, but here doctors can’t give physical samples for stimulant medications. Stimulant meds are a special prescription that has to be turned in to a pharmacy within 3 days of the date it was written, or it becomes invalid.
Our psychiatrist, has however, given us ‘coupons’ for trial prescriptions.
Ask. Also, many of the drug companies have programs to help people that can’t afford medications.
As overwhelming as this all seems now, you will work it out and it will get better. It might never be perfect, but you’re doing the right thing for Seth and his life will be that much better for it - and so will yours