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I'm now divorced

that is all.

Well, no, that isn't all. We still live in the same house until it sells. This is very taxing on me mentally. We cannot afford two households at this point.

Anyway, I'm not perfect, but I can say that I'm doing my best to be friendly and keep the peace...him, not so much. I'm still doing his fucking laundry for fucks sake.

All he does is bitch about money and how he's not going to be able to live, and his tax status is going to change and he's going to be fucked, and blah, blah, money, money, money.

now that is all.
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Why the hell are you still doing his laundry, I'd be stopping that.. hell I'd have stopped it when things started going bad.

I hope you all can get out of there soon.
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I'd "accidentally' pour bleach all over his clothes if he's so fucking entitled that he'd have a temper tantrum if you stop doing his laundry.
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Do you have enough room for you to be in different rooms? I would drop doing his laundry for sure, and anything else that you wouldn't normally do if you were living apart. I hope things turn around soon and you are able to live on your own or him on his own, whatever works.

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I guess I'm doing all this still just to keep the peace as much as possible. I can't stand the tension. I'm willing to be friendly, but he's not.

Me and my 9yo were watching a movie Friday night. It was about 10:10 and the movie was almost over. He comes home and says "Ian, why aren't you in bed?" (it's Friday night, wtf?) and I said "we're watching a movie, it's almost over" and exdh says "I wasn't talking to you".

I mean, wtf man? Be a fucking adult.

So I said "I don't care, I'm answering you anyway".

Please god let this house sell.
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Do you have enough room for you to be in different rooms?
Yeah, pretty much. He "lives" upstairs. He comes down to eat and stays gone or in his room most of the time. He works from home but his office is upstairs so...
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sort his laundry out and leave it unwashed. I hope hope pray pray your house sells soon.



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That living situation sounds hellish. You are earning some serious karmic points by still washing the skid marks off his undies when he can't even manage to be civil in front of your child. Click here to enlarge I'll keep my fingers crossed soon that the house sells very soon so you can be completely done with this chapter.

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You're doing his laundry and he's still being an asshole, so why bother? I'm sorry you're in this position. I hope it resolves quickly.
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You have nothing to gain by being friendly at this point if he's not going to reciprocate. Be civil to spare your kid, but other than that...

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I hope your house sells quickly. Sounds like he's being a huge ass, so I agree, why keep doing his laundry? He obviously doesn't appreciate it. Fuck it. Hang in there Semi. Click here to enlarge

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