I am a man. So biology isn't an issue.
I wish sepperating for a while was feasible but we're 1000+ miles from the nearest relative. Unfortunately she doesn't really have any friends she could stay with for a while either. She's always been a bit anti-social but with the chronic pain it's hard for her to even get out of the house unless its a necessity, so she doesn't have much hope of meeting anyone local in the near future either. I wish I made enough money that I could put one of us up in a motel for a week or two to see if that fixes anything.
Yeah, its easy to be bitter but its just too much energy I'm not willing to waste in an unproductive manner. I used to be bitter, now I'm just tired. Its taken years to get to the situation we're in, as her pain has increased I've had to cowboy up and carry the burden. I've been hoping that the changes I've been making (taking on additional chores so the house doesn't go to hell in a handbasket) would produce new results but I've realized that I haven't been changing, I'm taking up the slack, like I've always taken up the slack...theres just more slack now. I know that to get a different result I'm going to have to do something different, but God help me I have no fucking idea what the right thing to do is.