Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: The Springs, CO
I need some brutally honest objectivity here
Yes, I know it is a support forum, but I am asking anyone who is wiling to-to help me process this
I totaled my car a little over a week ago and so I have an insurance check coming to me (the Subaru is mine in the divorce). I will purchase another car with that check and register it etc. The ex has asked for 1,000 of it to help put a dent in his credit card debt (marital debt). His wording when he asked for the money was his typical manipulative behavior (I put the repairs for the car on the credit card, blah blah blah) before we left Milwaukee. I don't want to play. I want to tell him to fuck off. But I don't want to do to anyone what he did to me. After the accident he ignored my pleas for help, he repeatedly ignores my texts unless it would benefit him.
He has property he can sell for that money. He would need my permission but those items are not necessities, guns, motorcycles, etc. I barely have the necessities. I am serious. My shampoo is a donation. Many of the clothes I am wearing were donated. I screwed up by shoving pills down my throat and endangering my family but I cannot change the past and if I allow that to color the reason why I do or don't give him the money I am not making the right decision either.
I cannot afford a lawyer but with some of that money I may be able to access some legal advice. If I do say no he will punish me for it, not in outward ways but the way he talks about me to our children and to my family. Even if I did give him the money he could still continue to do that. It sounds like blackmail to me.
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