School counselor is going to call CPS on STBXdh
This is going to be more a vent than anything but if anyone wants to offer insight please feel free!
My 12 yo DSS has told his mother and me that when he goes to his dad's on the weekends, dad is getting drunk and talking about stuff you shouldn't be talking too with a 12 yo.
Dh has introduced him to 3 different women he's been with since him and I split.
He has told him all the sordid details of his breakup with DSS's mother, which involved adultery and basically talking badly about his mother to him.
He has made him care for his younger siblings while dh gets drunk with his buddies, i.e. getting a bottle, changing his diaper, comforting 2 yo brother when he wakes in the middle of the night. If DSS came out of the room he would yell at him to go back to bed, and would taunt him with "oh I better be nice or he's going to tell his mommy on me!"
DSS told him today that he will no longer be coming over on the weekends and dh got very angry and told him not to let his mother fill his head with lies. DSS told him that it's not her, its him telling the lies and he doesn't want to see him until he stops drinking. (He has had 3 DWI's in the last 10 years, he is on probation for 3 years and just finished his jail time, and yet he still drinks...)
DSS has had a bed wetting issue since he was very young, and dh teases him about having to wear goodnights to bed. This is a VERY sensitive subject to DSS as it is a physical problem that he has no control over.
Oh I could go on all night! I am so angry at this man right now, he has totally messed up so many peoples lives, I just can't let him do it anymore, and I know that it will continue to our younger children if something doesn't give soon. I can't believe he doesn't realize what he is about to lose. He has gone through 2 wives and he still JUST DOES NOT GET IT!
Should I call his probation officer? I have never witnessed him drunk but I believe DSS. He will definately be in violation of his probation if I do. Should I let CPS handle it? I know for a fact his X is going to talk to the counselor that DSS has been confiding in and they are going to call CPS, and I agree that they should. This poor boy is so well behaved, and through all this has brought his grades up at school. He just doesn't deserve this crap! Nor do my children deserve it.
Our DD is devastated when he tells her she will visit him and he backs out constantly. The last two days he told her she was coming to stay the night and has cancelled both days. She said today that he told her she could come tomorrow morning for a few hours and she asked me tonight if he was going to change his mind? She is 4 and knows he is putting her off! I don't really want her to go with all the other crap that is happening. I am in a tailspin right now. Wugh.
Well, I know this doesn't all make sense but as I said, I am venting....time to sleep if I can. My brain and heart just hurt too much right now.
I just hate him so much for what he has done to all of us.