I do think there's some truth in it, which is why I've worked so hard to make a shitty marriage work. I think in most cases you should definitely do some work on yourself and/or on your marriage before you call it quits. But damn. If you can't make it work, you can't make it work and acting like you've fucked up your kids' lives irreparably isn't helping. I'm certainly not going to look at every divorcee as a shitty, selfish parent.