I hate being called a full-time Mom. I'm not. I have a life outside my son. I always will. He is not my entire life. I don't spend the same time with him that a woman working a full working week spends at her job.

Plus, it's like implying working Moms are only doing a half assed job. Some of them are but not all of course.

That is all....

Not a fan of the term either.

But then, I don't think there's any term that everyone would be happy with.

I cringe when I someone calls me a "homemaker" or "housewife."

Please don't take this the wrong way, but I really dislike that term. When dh was in school full-time (& didn't have time to moonlight or work) I was working & some mom I'd just met asked me if I worked outside the home. When I told her I did, she said, "Well I'm a full-time mom" with an air of superiority. It was the first I'd heard the term & I was speechless. I wanted to tell her that I was working _because_ I needed to support my kids, so how was I less of a mom than her? I didn't stop being a mother when I was working, any more than her husband stopped being a father when he was working--or was that ok because on her planet fathers are supposed to work but never mothers?

Now I tell people who ask that I don't work outside the home. I dounderstand why people use the phrase "full-time mom" but since it was used as a put-down when I worked out of the home I do try to avoid that. Although there's really nothing wrong with the phrase I do avoid it.

I also use "SAHM" even though as many have pointed out I spend a lot of time away from home with them.

I'll get off my soapbox now--sorry about the long post.

I don't care what people call me. I'm just glad that I get to sit at home and do whatever I want.

I don't like the term either. I dislike it more when a SAHM thinks she's superior to me because I do work. If she bothered to get to know me she'd realize that I work outside the home because I have to, not because I want to.

I'm tired of SAHM shunning me because I'm "full time." Whatever.

I agree with you Pinkie, though I don't work out of the home anymore.

Full time mom to me sounds like the hardest job in the world, and when someone says that that is what they are, I have a lot of respect for them because it is hard despite what some people believe.

domestic engineer?

That is right Vicky..LOL

I've just recently cut down my 'outside of the home' job, to Sat and Sun. Prior, I worked 6 days a week. I don't feel I've changed as a mom, or become less or more busy. I worked so much because I had too, because I was a mom, and now I'm working only weekends because I'm a mom. Parenthood played the major role in both those choices. The tasks I'm doing have changed, but both take up the whole day, and I've been 'mom' all along!!

I always found it funny when a 'stay-at-home' mom acted superior, while I was working, or vice versa. Once we become mom, we do what needs to get done. period.

Sorry for the soapbox, I'm stepping down now, and I'll put it away

I happen to prefer the term "homemaker". Only because that's exactly what I'm spending my time on - creating the home life we want.

You know, the term doesn't bug me. I have a multitude of roles that I play in my life- mother, wife, student, worker, etc. however, I'm always a mom.

I dislike when that term is used as a way of belittling others and making one feel self-important.

i have one work outside the home mom friend who really thinks that we sit around and watch soaps all day long. I have four boys...count them four!!!!! Do you know what kind of messes they are capable of? LOL!

Willoween, I am reviving an old thread to say I completely agree with you. I worked full-time when it was best for my family, and now stay at home because that's what's best now. I know some WOHM look down on SAHM, but most don't.

One aspect of being a SAHM that's easier is that I don't feel that most people look down on me for it. When I was a WOHM most of the people I knew were not supportive, which made it especially difficult. Now many of my friends work out of the home at least part-time, but respect my decision--as I respect theirs.