accidents?? My 3 year old has been doing better with wearing underwear and pottying on the toilet although he needs to be reminded all day. Sometimes I wonder who is trained

Lately, he has been refusing to wear a pull-up or even a diaper at night (he will wear a pull up at night). Some days he does great, others he poops and pees in his underwear all over the house and mommy gets VERY frustrated. I try very hard not to let him see my frustration but seriously, I do not want to spend all day cleanin up the pee!

What do you say to your children? My instinct is to tell him that if he poops and pees in his underwear he has to wear a pullup, but he really doesn't want to... is that giving him permission to poop/pee in a pullup? Is that punishing him? Sometimes he acts like he's upset about poo/pee in his underpants and other times he acts oblivious...

I know that when he's ready, he'll be good... I just don't know how to handle the interim while still respecting him and not making him feel bad about accidents but yet making sure he knows that not what you're suppose to do...

Making any sense?? Any BTDT advice??

Bethy--
I have totally BTDT. Xander would have poop accidents and we would just gently remind him that poop goes in the potty not in our underpants. But that is the only time we would say or do anything.

Rory has also had a few slips since she PTd a few months ago. We just change her and again remind her peeop is for the potty not our panties.

I don't have any real useful advice, I just let me kids go at their own pace without any pressure or lectures.

Blake poops in his pants and sometimes in the toilet but he's got the pee thing under control. What's odd about the poop in his pants is that he won't do this unless we're home.

I let my dd help me with the clean-up. I don't use it as a punishment. We clean it up together because I think it just helps her get her head around the concept of why it is better to go to the potty.

I've tried that, he thinks it's a blast to get out the vacuum and suck the pee up. I have to be careful that he doesn't pee just so we can get it out.