Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Home of the 2004 AND 2007 World Series champions
My dd will be 4 in December and despite knowing in my head that she'd "do it when she's ready," I just couldn't/can't fathom how she could not be trained already. I mean, she can almost read! It makes no sense to me. And it's frustrating. I totally know how you feel.
But, we are almost there. All of a sudden, in the last two weeks (I know I'm going to jinx myself) she has been telling us when she has to go and staying dry in a pull-up. We were having lots of disasters in panties, so we stuck with pull-ups. She will even tell me now when we're in a store. Most of the time she still poops in the pull up b/c she's not as good as knowing when she has to go and she's too impatient to sit on the potty and wait.
So, when you say rewards, do you mean small things like stickers and stuff? Dd wasn't fazed by those or even M&Ms (yeah, I know all the things I said I'd never do). But what did work was a large promise: ballet slippers. I told her only big girls could wear them and she could get some when she could wear panties all the time, with only accidents sometimes. (I've tried to teach her that accidents are completely normal and expected.)
At first, she didn't even care about the ballet shoes. But then I mentioned them in front of my mom, and my mom got really into coaching her (she lives w/us) and reminding her that she could get them if she peed. And then magically one day she just started telling us she had to go and staying dry in between.
Is there a big thing you could promise your ds that he might get excited about? I know some people say to stop and give it a rest for a while. I didn't want to do that. I felt she was too old for that. So I remained consistent, urging her to go throughout the day. If she really resisted I would give up.
Does he go on the potty at all? Have you already tried buying cool underwear?