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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-22-2005, 09:48 AM Thread Starter
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I'm a part-time grad student, I teach full time, and I share equal visitation with my x. My son is four.

This summer, for three weeks, I'm going to the British Isles for a study abroad program with my university. My son will be with his dad or with my sister.

I was away for two weeks last summer studying in the southwest, but three weeks seems so much longer.

I'm having so much guilt over this. I know he'll be ok. He's close with his dad and with my sister, but I'm feeling guilty about being away from him. Selfish. Am I crazy for doing this?

I keep telling myself I'll have plenty of time with him after I get back because I'll be off with him for five more weeks and we'll have all day together, but I'm stressing about this so much, I'm barely looking forward to the trip, which I've been wanting to do for 8 years now.

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post #2 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-30-2005, 03:31 PM
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post #3 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-30-2005, 05:08 PM
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Well you are kind of selfish for not inviting me. Click here to enlarge

Enjoy yourself. And you are lucky it sounds like you have a good relationship with your ex.
post #4 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-30-2005, 07:54 PM
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No, you don't suck.

I had the same dilemna when my son was almost 3. I had to spend 3 weeks in Cuba to finish up research for my MSW. It was tough...I felt guilty. He was a trooper, though, and he had blast while staying with his cousins.

I found the first couple of days tough and then the final 2 days tough. That was when I missed him most. The time in between went by quickly and I was surprisingly able to concentrate.

Your son will have a good time with his father. Is he thinking of it like a little adventure? Enjoy your time away and think about the time you will have together when you return.

Good luck!
post #5 of 6 (permalink) Old 05-17-2005, 11:11 AM
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You are doing this for all the right reasons. First off a happy momma is a good momma. This opportunity will bring future payoffs of so many kinds. Professesional, and personal. Your son will have a wonderful time with you ex and sister. Youwill have grown , a good thing. And an added plus is that when you get back everythnig that has become mundane with him will become new and fresh again.
Take the opportunity and milk for all its worth for yourself, your son and for all of us who do not get the chance to do the same thing.
post #6 of 6 (permalink) Old 05-22-2005, 11:39 AM
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No, you dont suck. But certainly you feel badly about this for a reason.

I wonder if your sis could come over and bring your ds for a bit of a visit?

I disagree 100% that a happy momma is a good momma automatically.Click here to enlarge BUT I think your education is important and you do need to combine parenting and learning&earning the best you can.
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