ARGGGG! I just want to pull my hair out. I have no idea what to do. I think I have tried everything. Ignoring it. Reasoning. Walking away. Hugs. Distracting.

HELP!

Wish I had some advice! I'm right there with you though.

It will eventually pass.

What has worked for us is putting her in her room and walking away.

This was dh's idea. All my maternal instincts were telling me to hold her while she cried, but putting her in her room and walking away was dh's idea. We tried it, and lo and behold, it worked: within literally a minute she would have calmed down and either started playing with her toys or run back out and give us a big hug.

My daughter is 2.

I don't do this when she's genuinely upset, just when she's tantruming because she can't get her way.

We do this too. My dd is 2 also. She started with the frustrated tantrums when she was about 12 months. I started saying, "Daphne, mommy can't help you if you are freaking out." That evolved into just saying no freaking. Most of the time dd will calm down when I tell her, "no freaking." When that doesn't work I tell her that when she's finished freaking she can come out of her room and I'll help her with whatever it was that caused the tantrum.

So far this has worked for us. She has not yet thrown a tantrum in public.

I'm right there with you. My dd is 3 and gets all mad and says NO,doesnt listen,then tells me today I don/t like you I like daddy. I'm so hurt. But then again she says mommy I love you. time out doesnt seem to work, so I put her in the room and walk away. will this phase pass?? or what can I do to make her stop?

Small children have intense feelings but don't have enough life experience to know how to handle them. When they can't have something they want the frustration can get overwhelming and they blow. They *do* eventually learn to handle their feelings more appropriately. A parent's job is to keep them safe, be consistent and model appropriate ways of dealing with frustration. I used to grit my teeth and chant "it will pass, it will pass."

i don't know how old the child in question is, but I read somewhere that this mother would get out the video camera and tape the kid acting like a loon. After the child saw it played back, all she'd have to do is reach for the camera and he'd stop. Just an idea...?

I also have mine go to their rooms. Little kids just don't have the means, the understanding, or the tools to deal with how they feel, and sometimes tantrums are how they express that. No fun for parents

I tell the kids that they have the right to their feelings, but that rest of us shouldn't have to listen to a tantrum, so off to their rooms until they are calm. It usually works, we talk and hug afterwards. Sometimes toy-throwing and that starts which is a whole other ball of wax.

Usually there is an issue at hand.

DS is almost 2.

1. Throwing-himself-on-the-floor tantrums usually means he is tired and needs to go to sleep.

2. Whacking-his-siblings-on-the-head tantrums means he needs attention.

3. Shreaking tantrums are obviously designed to test my mental stability.

If you try to pay attention to what precludes the tantrum, you will notice a pattern. You can then react accordingly. Tantrum 1 obviously means we a nap. And I do mean "we".

Tantrum 2 means somebody better go play with him after discussing why it's not cool to do that.

Tantrum 3 require prozac and earplugs.

Each child is very different.


It may sound corny, but there is something that always works when DD gets pissy: tickling. Seriously. She loves to be tickled. It distracts her and gets her back into a happy mood (usually with a little MORE distraction after the initial tickling).

It is worth a try!

We've just entered the tantrum phase at 18 months.

I've found that they usually happen when I am on the phone. Those are the shrieking ones. DD also seems to think that there is a 'no holds barred' when I'm on the phone. She tries to get into everything she knows she's not allowed to with such determination. ie the attention getting tantrum. Sadly, sometimes I just have to chuckle to myself, because it's just so comical.

For other meltdowns, I try to use distraction. It still works for the most part. Let's get a book, look out the window, look for a favorite toy, etc.

I'm lucky with my daugher, she doesn't have many fits during the day.

My boys are another story.(and they are older)

with kooolaidred.

Thanks for the refresher. DS will be there before I know it.