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post #1 of 5 (permalink) Old 03-08-2014, 12:22 PM Thread Starter
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To go or not to Go

My soon to be 23 year old son (yes he is an adult) is planning on taking a road trip to Texas to meet his bio Dad's family. His bio Dad has denied his existence for the last 23 years.

He wants to know where he came from, my ex husband was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive to him while growing up and until I remarried he has never had a real father figure (none of the kids have).

I am torn on him going out there alone, I like to think that it is mainly because I dont want him driving that far alone~ but I am also afraid that after he meets the other family members he will want to meet his dad and will be rejected again.

I dont plan on being stuck up his ass the whole time we are there, I have friends in San Antonio, Austin and in between that I would love to visit, but still be around if he should need me.

There is a lot more to this story, but if you were in my shoes what would you do?




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Just be a sounding board. He's going to have a lot of conflicting emotions, but he needs to do this on his own. Be there for him to vent to, because he will need to vent. He will be upset, he will be happy, he will be confused. I've been through something similar, and it was confusing as hell. The worst part was the other family expecting me to just be happy and accepting and act like decades hadn't passed without knowledge or contact.

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Thank you for that, that is all I want to do is be there for him, he is such a gentle fun-loving non confrontational person that he thinks it will all be smooth and happy, and it may be.

He is insistent on driving out, and I would go with him in a heart beat as I have friends out there that I could see while he does his thing, but physically I dont think I can make the drive.




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I'd advise him to take someone with him if he can. Any friends available to go with him?
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None that can get off work at the same time~




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