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Join Date: Aug 2017
Hi, I totally get what you're talking about. There's so much advice out there it's overwhelming trying to DO it all and DO the right things. The best approach i can offer is to DO less and BE more. What your child really want's and needs from you is to be seen for who they really are. To be approved of and to feel good enough themselves. Take time to work on yourself, meditate until you feel love for yourself in your heart. This will affect your child's feelings and behaviours too. I have written a fair bit on this subject and I'll share some of it for you here:
Many of us have insecurities about our fundamental worthiness as parents. This alone can cause us to communicate poorly with our children. The fundamental fear is: “I’m not good enough”. We may worry about this and at times question whether we’re even fit to be parents. We may fear that we’re under-qualified, have no faith in ourselves and therefore no conviction in the words we’re using when attempting to guide and discipline. Then, if our child is behaving poorly or seems unhappy, we can lose even more confidence in our ability, and the downward spiral continues. At that point it really is ‘the blind leading the blind’. The good news is that once our insecurities are recognised and admitted, they can be accepted and then released.
Self-confidence (self-love), presence and conviction in the words you use are absolutely required in order for you to communicate with children effectively. This means coming from a place of love and respect for yourself, as well as a place of love and respect for them.
If you love yourself enough, you’ll demand respect from everyone you encounter purely with your presence. If you love and respect yourself enough, you won’t allow yourself to dwell in the murky waters of undesirable emotion. If we know that when we’re stressed (in fear) we suffer, and we also realise that we are in control of our emotions, it doesn’t make sense to continue to hold on to the painful ones. The good news is we don’t have to hold on to them. We can simply let them go. We facilitate our own suffering, and we have the power to abate it.
Hope this helps you but let me know if you want any further clarification or practical things you can do to achieve these states of self love. Peace and love from TRExxx