My 3yr old likes to say no when i ask her to pick up her toys

she also likes to tell stories, cute ones

mommy go away let me go potty in quiet.

mommy im angry, or daddy im angry

loves to do things on her own

she likes to sing when she talks sometimes." like mommy i wanna go ouuuutside and bloowwww bubbles bubbles bubbles."

you all have me

my two are almost 3 and when I tell Garrett its time to pick up "toys, plates, etc" he looks at me and tells me "no momma".

shelby is always rubbing my back and asking if I'm alright.

They both get into EVERYTHING no matter how many times I take them down off daddy's desk or get them out of one thing or another they do it again and again and again. And Garrett's favorite words are always "no momma"

Also, my three year old has just starting taking responsibility for her own mistakes. She used to point to the finger at her sister, but often now something will break, get messy whatever, I will ask if it was her 2yo sister and she responds, "No! It was meeeeeee" quite happily, might I add.

The latest thing she is doing is, when she gets hurt I will say, "oh I am sorry you are hurt." "No it wasn't you mum, it was the wall" or whatever she ran into. Cracks me up, that one.

Courtesy of the computer she learnt percentages and now has to finish everything "One hundren" before she can do anything else.

I luuuuve "Mommy I dont like you/it/daddy/sister or any other word in this spot"

My reply "Oh well you have no choice"

Or my fav is we tell our son to hush or use inside voice but we dont let him say hush to us, So we will be in public "HUSH MOMMY"
people look at me like i have a crazy, rude kid, I'm still trying to teach him a word when he wants us to be quiet but they all sound rude i guess

I think this sucks. You are setting yourself up for a pretty angry kid. You can say hush to your child, but they can't say it? Am I reading that right? I am more concerned with my kid's development than the rude stares of a bunch of strangers who have no context for what is happening. Dd is alwasy experimenting with what works, socially or conversationally or whatever. She has to, it's the only way she will learn how to behave.

And "you have no choice" is very disempowering for a child. May I suggest a couple of books? How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlisch, and Positive Discipline. I grew up in a fmaily where my parents ruled "because I said so," and these books helped me learn to communicate with my child in a much healthier way.

Mab, I agree 100% These little ones need to feel a sense of control over their thoughts and feelings.

The biggest thing I have noticed with my son is that he has no sense of time at this point.

Two minutes is a hour, tomorrow is after nap, etc. So I try not to bring anything up until it is almost time to go. We are working on it though. His preschool teacher brought this up as being one of the normal things with children this age.

Freaking A, talk about not getting the whole story, i will say we dont say hush to mommy in certain situtations, and if you let your kids say whatever they want just becuse you say it to them so be it, but i will say things (never cursing or saying shut up or things of that nature) such as HUSH, and We dont say that is going to have DS in the corner crying gimmie a break, just becuase i dont let him say it back to me.

Second point DS really doesnt understand the whole i dont like "place word here", its his way of saying he is upset about something like not getting a toy or, if he is in timeout for doing something and he says that to me, i am letting him know him saying that is not changing the situation, forgot to add i also tell him, "well mommy still likes you and things like that" each comment is for the situation.

DS is at the age of finding his place, and dh and i are trying (stress the trying) to show him when the right times to say things and how to say things politely, and screaming HUSH just becuase for example when i am singing to DD at a store to help her stop crying just becuase he is not in the mood for my beautiful voice is not polite. He does get to say Hush in situations like he is trying to hear a part of a movie, and dh and i are talking, but i feel i need to let him know there are times its exceptable and times it is not. Is that still so bad, i am always up to recommendations?? I guess it is a double standard, but i am just trying to teach the time and place for everything

In your original post, you sounded very disrespectful to your child. But then again, you told some more of the story, and it sounds better that way. I still recommend those books, they were huge help to me.