In May I took a full-time position with a 45ish min (average) commute each way. I keep thinking I'm going to get the hang of this, lots of families have 2 working parents in the home, and so there must be something I am doing wrong because I am struggling so much making this work.
It doesn't help that both of my kids go to non-neighborhood schools that are literally 10-15 minute drives OPPOSITE directions from our house with no bus service.
We have 2 different carpools. One is rather tense, the other one is great. Dh works from home on an eastern time schedule (so 5:30am to 2:30pm our time) so that he can run afternoon pick-up for both carpools. The real challenge comes in with after school activities. DD has ballet 4 days a week, 2 of which start at 4pm (she gets out of school at 3:30pm about 15-20 min away from the dance studio
). We just found out Saturday that DS' little league practice will be 4 days a week, also at 4pm.
The irony is that when we were on a single income, it was financially stressful to have the kids in after school activities (dance is soooo expensive) and now that we both work, we can afford it but it's nearly physically impossible to get them there.
I guess I mainly just need to vent to others who probably understand and/or have had similar struggles. I've looked into options like hiring someone but then I run into carpool issues (because they'd be driving the carpool kids, too). Neither of our carpools is interested in being paid to do both sides of the carpool.
Oh, and I developed an ulcer in January.