first of all, only wean if that's what you truly want. Not just because of idiots who say things.
that said, I weaned my oldest very slowly. I was just nuring her at night then one day I realized it had been a day or two since she had nursed. It was nearing New Years and I decided to "don't offer, don't refuse" to see how she did. She never asked to nurse again. (I really wanted some champagne that New Years, Dh had brought back a bottle of Dom Perignon from Bosnia...that's another story...).
but the best part was NO PAIN at all. none. Doing it gradually has it's benefits!
I hope this post makes sense, I"m tired tonight! I hope you had some fun while dd was gone.