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Asshole dad, takes break?

Backstory, been divorced for almost a year, he was doing okay with the kids until he moved a girlfriend in this past Oct.
He's been a shitty dad already and doesn't see the kids unless he has to, and now I get this email from him. WTF Transition? Who just goes on parent break for 3 months?!

"Also I will be unavailable for the next few months. (end of June) I have had discussions with my lawyer and the need to focus on my transition. After I successfully complete my transition I will resume the schedule in accordance with the parenting order."


I would like to file for full custody, fuck this guy. I am so angry with him.
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Is he getting a sex change?
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Ugh, that would be something decent. He's just a selfish pig. Puts everything he wants first.

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Soooo, he needs an official break from his kids? I can't even imagine, that would be like torture for me.
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File for custody. You will get it!
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What the hell is he even talking about? Who just decides to check out for a few months with their kids? Good lord, what a tool. I'm sorry.

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I assumed he meant sex change also,

Yes he's an ass, take that email and get full custody.

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My ex hasn't seen or spoken to the boys in about six years by choice. Before that one visit it was another 2 or so years of no contact. Some people don't deserve to have children and the boys want nothing to do with him now.

He actually tried to befriend them on Facebook last year and included comments in the Facebook message about their lives which pissed them off because someone told him about their lives and they felt like he had no right to know anything about them, anyway, they ignored his message and he hasn't tried since them.

I say go for full custody. What kind of "parent" takes breaks like that from their kids??

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My ex pulled that same crap. He needed to take a break, disappear and regroup so he could be a better person and father to his children. That was 8 years ago. I'm still waiting on him becoming a better person and dad.

In his mind it makes perfect sense while you are left handling the emotional needs of your kids because of him. What a douche and I would file for full custody.


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What the hell kind of lawyer would even tell him that would be ok?
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Mine did that. Took basically a 3 month "break" from being a parent, while I had just suffered a Click here to enlarge collarbone and came very very close to having a complete mental breakdown.

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I just cannot understand not wanting to see your kids & to just check the fuck out without any notice.
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What a douche bag.
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Mine has now come to his senses, and has apologized profusely to me and the kids for where his mind was when he was married to #3. He honestly kept thinking she would eventually warm up to the kids, and she never did. He left her because of it. He's been trying to make it up to the kids ever since, and it was rough going in the beginning because they got so used to him not being around, that they were a little put off by having to go out of their way to see him. He and I have had many, many conversations about that time, and I can't stay mad at him forever about it, but it took him 8 years and 3 years of therapy to get to where he is now. I just stopped relying on him for anything, and I still act this way. Even though he continues to tell me I can use him for back-up for dr. appointments and sports, I can't, because that is still not my default. He's finally stopped getting butthurt over it at least and understands where I'm coming from.

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Transition from what? I don't get this idea of "taking a break from the kids" parents don't get breaks they are parents.

That said it sounds like he's pretty consumed with himself at the moment.

Dealing with exes can be a pain but even more so when they are douches. It's hard in the kids too who don't understand or when they do understand are still hurt by it all.
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The only way I would look on that as other than repugnant is if he was going into intensive mental health or substance abuse tx.
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What a selfish, repugnant jackhole douchebag.

I agree it might be okay if he were going to inpatient substance abuse treatment or serious mental health treatment. If he were having surgery for a sex change that would be a legit reason to cancel a few visitations while recuperating but not just begging off having a relationship with the kids. WTF.
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He's not. He's all involved in roller derby and himself. He's not going away, he just sucks.
I am so disappointed in him. I feel so sad for my kids, I hate him.

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File for full custody and an accompanying raise is child support.
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