I'm being really immature
So dh and I are having a series of arguments about my in-laws. We don't argue much, but when we do, 99% of the time the subject matter is my in-laws.
My mil, fil, sil have been planning a trip to Europe. I got over the fact that my inlaws were paying for a 3 week vaca for sil's family even though sil's family is massively wealthy.
Then, 4 weeks ago mil had a heart attack. I talked with dh about the trip and voiced my concerns about her going so soon post heart attack (4 weeks). My concerns were wholly ignored. Then, last week, I talked with mil causally and she mentioned that she hadn't been feeling well for 2 weeks - very fatigued, lots of aches & pains, etc. she had gotten her note from her doctor stating that she had no travel restrictions so she was happy.
I gently talked to dh about how she wasn't feeling well (it was 10 am, 68 degrees and she was dripping with sweat), and that she mentioned that she can only stand for 15 minutes at a time so she was trying to find a good traveling stool.
I voiced my concerns about her health again, and was dismissed.
We were all at a family wedding the day before they left and she was saying how much she didn't feel good. And that it was 97 degrees where they were going, etc...
I asked dh if he thought she was overly worried about letting down sil and maybe needed someone to say "hey, maybe you really shouldn't go"
So, they left Monday morning and 5 hrs into the flight she got dizzy, fell down, and broke her leg. She's in a hospital in Paris and can't have surgery until Saturday bc they have to wait for the blood thinners to wear off.
All I want to hear is "you were right and I'm sorry I didn't listen to you"
Srsly, that's all I want. But I don't want to tell him to say it, I want it to come from him.
I'm sure I'm being g ridiculously immature. I feel badly for him that his mom is so far away and that he can't be there. I worry something will happen in surgery and that she won't be ok.
800 miles in 2015