Are you stricter or more lax in regards to what your kids are up to?

maybe about the same.

I can't believe you just compared me to my parents...

I went there...............mom

WAAAAAAYYYYY more lax I think.
My dad was a hammer dropper, mom was a "just wait til your dad gets home."

About the same, I think. Hard to tell. My sister and I didn't get in a lot of trouble, my kids don't get in a lot of trouble....

My parents didn't have screen time rules; so I spent a lot of time watching B movies and reruns. I don't have a lot of screen time rules....

I have no good answer to this question.

Different.

My parents (mom)had rules for no good reason. Things like we could blow dry our hair or wash it every day. We had to ask permission to grab food from the fridge et. al.

When my kids are heading anywhere, I'm in touch with the parents. I know the parents, I ask if they know there's a get together at their house, I ask who will be around etc. My parents took my word for it that I was going to a party etc. They got lucky because I was where I said I'd be but that didn't work out so good for them with my next two sisters

I try to have rules for a reason - whether it's to maintain order and safety or to manage fairness. If my kids have earned slack, they get it. They also know they lose it if we can't trust them.

/couldn't. We weren't allowed to blow dry our hair or wash it everyday even if it needed it.

the same, i try to be the same. and if i dont know what to do, i call and ask them. hahah my brother and i didnt have a lot of rules and we didnt really get in trouble. so far, me and kids and the same.

Different. I keep better tabs on my kids as far as knowing where and with whom they are. But way more lax about personal style choices, ear piercing, leg shaving etc.

More strict but also much, much, much, much, much, more involved.

Not that I blame my parents. They both had shit childhoods and did the best that they could.

This exactly.


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About the same, except I had a lot more responsibilities than my kids do.

My parents were divorced. My dad was strict but fun. My mom was done parenting by the time I came around so I was pretty free range. I am way more involved and my kids are allowed to get involved in lots of activities. I know where they are and who they're with but I am not friends with any of the parents because I don't care to be aranoia

I am more laid back than my Mom. I parent more like my Dad did. We are as strict and have high expectations but prioritize different things.

I actually parent lol


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Isn't that just so fucking weird?

My mom had similar random rules that were nonsensical in hindsight and were less about raising us right than keeping control. If we asked for something we needed the answer was always "no" regardless of what it was. For example, I begged my mom to take me to a dermatologist for my acne. No. But if something were her idea, then there was no refusing. In hindsight she parented exclusively for the fulfillment of her personality disorder. I don't do that.

Every rule we have has a solid reason behind it. We try to follow through on what we say we're going to do, be it rewards or consequences or just "I'll be there at 5pm to pick you up". I want our kids to be able to know that if we say we're going to do something they can take that to the bank. I'm sure we put too much emphasis on this stuff and our kids will vow to do things 100% differently once they have kids.

Funny story some of you may have heard...the other day we were having a little throw down with the teenager about teenager stuff. He said, "I'm sick of this stupid functional family that wants to DO STUFF together and wants me to DO STUFF with them!!"

I talked to his guidance counselor today and she said that's actually a new one for her in her 20+ years working with high school kids.