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post #21 of 39 (permalink) Old 01-07-2016, 06:46 AM
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I'm 35 so I could, maybe, if smart 24-year-old me hadn't gotten her tubes tied. Click here to enlarge I've never really fantasized about having another one except for fleeting moments. I don't want another one because

A. I remember what it's like having babies, and it's not my favorite thing ever.
B. I celebrate every milestone towards independence my kids have.
C. They're 11 and 13. I can't imagine starting over.



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Because I'm almost 50. Duh.
Because I AM 50, and tired, and my kids are 18 - 25. No going backsies.

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I'm 48, dh is 53, our girls are 20 and 17, and I have a LOT less energy and patience than I had in my 30's Click here to enlarge
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A; I'm 50 but my kids are only 13 and 8 and I'd better not be a grandparent for AT LEAST the next 10-15 years. Although the 13yo makes me occasionally nostalgic for the simplicity of colic/sleep deprivationClick here to enlargetty training...
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50yr olds birth babies, yo.
Not if they have a lick of sense, they don't.

I was 43 when DH and I got together, and when we first talked about getting married, I remember asking him if he was going to be sorry not to ever be a biological father. He said no, he was happy being a stepfather.

I'd decided before DS was born that he was the last one for me. If DH had insisted on wanting to have a baby, I'd have insisted he go find some other woman to do it with. Click here to enlarge

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I loved being pregnant and having babies but I knew after dd2 that I was done. I am still done, no desire to have any babies other than grandbabies. Click here to enlarge Not anytime soon on that front, though. I am not quite 40 yet. I like this stage.

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I really wanted another one for a long time but DH wasn't on board. I think at this point I would still be happy to have another one but it would be really really hard and I'm okday with not having another as well, I don't think I could do the no sleep again.

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I'll buck the trend, I don't think her kids are all that in the cute department. not all kids are cute. they have other attributes that make up for that, but look at tweedle's aiden, that is a cute kid. and your kids mel, those are adorable kids. Her's are average. I wouldn't take a second look passing her on the street.
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1. I'm nearly 52.
2. I loved being pregnant but it's not something my body does well. I can't imagine this improving with age. Click here to enlarge
3. My children are all out of the house or nearing so. (The last two are high school juniors). I got a late enough start with childbearing/rearing as is.
4. My grandkids (15,13,11,9), especially the older two, would be horrified.

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I'm 36, firmly in the 'Hell No' camp. Dh got a vasectomy five? the ears ago. I just stared a job I love, my kids are 14 & 12, I love the freedom we all gain everyday. I'm lucky, plenty of my friends/family are having babies but I feel 100% no desire for more.


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I laugh my ass off when people have a bunch of kids close together and comment on how less expensive it is because they share toys clothes etc. They will be shocked feeding 4-6 teenagers in a few years.


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No kidding, Pudin! Mine are spaced 5 years apart for a reason...so none of the expensive stages like daycare, orthodontia, college, etc. overlapped. Feeding one teen is enough!


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Because NO. I am too old. I don't have childcare. I am done!!!
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I laugh my ass off when people have a bunch of kids close together and comment on how less expensive it is because they share toys clothes etc. They will be shocked feeding 4-6 teenagers in a few years.
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Oh, and another baby, no. I'm almost 53.

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I'm too old for that shit. I've been parenting people for 28 years and I want a life that's no longer driven by what other people need.



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I am sort of both/neither on the OP choices--if DH & I were younger when we got married, and if I had never had a big expensive health bomb go off in the middle of my childbearing years, I'd have had several more, I'm sure.

As it is, I totally cannot have more kids, health and moneywise, and I really don't want anymore, old-and-cranky-wise.

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Because I am 44 and infertile.

I dreamed for years of getting pregnant out of the blue but it never happened. I am at peace with that and have no regrets on how we built our family. We are a great stage now with a 9 and 13 yr old and we can actually go out and leave them home. I don't want to pay for daycare again and I need my sleep. I am also working hard to advance my career and another baby would put a halt to that! Plus I can retire in just over 12 years with 34 years of service! I would have to work well past that if we had a baby.

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Because I got it right the first time?

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No, seriously, had I been younger when I had DS a second kid might have happened, but I turned 39 shortly after he was born & about 6/7 years later, my plumbing got yanked & took any further potential (remote in the extreme though it may have been) completely off the table.


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