I guess it makes sense to start off with the body cavity search, as if childbearing weren't invasive enough...


**How did you hear About us? If from another site, which one and what was/is your username there?
LLL

**Were you referred by a current or past member of Sybermoms? Who?
It was so long ago I don't remember. It took months for me to remember I wanted to check this place out.

**How many kids? Ages?
I have a girl, 5 months actual, 3 months adjusted.

**What kind (brand, model, year) of Child Safety Restraint Devices do you have, and when was the last time you checked for recalls on them? If it's been a while, you can check right now at that link.
2006 Peg Perego Primo Viaggio, and yes, I'm always (neurotically) looking for recalls.

**Will you cry if picked on?
I hope not, will you?

**Will you threaten to sue us if we hurt your feelings?
No, I'll get even in more devious ways.

**Have you ever, at any website, posted a goodbye post?
I didn't know anyone did that.

**Have you ever, at any website, or IRL, faked an illness/your own death/someone else's death to gain attention/sympathy/get out of trouble/get laid?
Wow, that'd be a no.

**Will you join in and pick on others?
I'm usually rooting for the underdog, so I would probably pick on the picker.

** Are you aware that picking on children and people with disabilities isn't very funny?
I am aware.

** Are you aware that using the term re.tard, or any variation thereof as an insult does not make you funny or cool? It displays your limited imagination and a marked lack of class.
Well I think that answers that question.

**If you heard of Sybermoms by "word of mouth", what is the one thing that stuck out most for you, about our reputation?
"Not for the faint of heart"

**Are you Magnolia Blue? JAS? willi? Meli?
Don't think so....

**Do you have any questions for us? (please note to all the WR groupies, you don't have to be a badass to everyone on these threads.)
Any advice for this forum?

Can you explain the adjusted/actual age thing? I've never quite understood it--do you generally go with her age from birth when people ask how old she is?

I'm curious, too. To add to that question, how old do you think she'll be before you stop adjusting her age?

Does LLL have a message board or did you learn about us in a rl meeting?

Welcome!

My daughter was 7 weeks premature so her actual age is 5 months, but developmentally she is 3 months old. I generally tell people she is 5 months old, but there are times when people start asking "Is she doing..?" or say "she's so small" and that's when I will say her adjusted age. I often feel like I need to tell people she was 2 months early as if to justify her, even before someone asks - I'm not sure if it can be compared to a disability because she is perfectly healthy mentally and physically, but I imagine new parents of disabled children feel the same way - like I want to say something before someone can ask. I also think that since it was such a difficult thing for me, I need to point out that I worked really hard for my baby! They say that Preemies catch up at about 2 years old, but I've always wondered if that's just when all babies slow down their development.

LLL does have a message board, quite similar to this one.

and Welcome.

Thanks for explaining.

welcome

Sweet, I am 3 months younger than I thought!! (born almost 3 months early)

WOW! What happened What Just Happened? (Sorry, couldn't resist...) I assume you are okay.