My mom picked up a book by Mr. Rogers for firstborn children about having a new baby in the house. There is this one part where he's talking about how sometimes it may seem like your parents don't have time for you anymore, because they're always paying so much attention to the new baby, and the accompanying picture about did me in. It's a little boy, holding his teddy bear, with a little dump truck at his feet. You guys, Liam's favorite toy is a dump truck, and he also has a teddy bear he just loves.

I lost it and started sobbing. The thought of Liam being sad because we don't have enough time for him is breaking my heart.

I won't lie and say it's easy. It's only been a week, and I already feel like I'm not giving Emma as much as I'd like. I know it's completely normal to feel this way...and I know it's completely normal for it to be happening. But it's still really hard.

I think that we're doing our best to make sure that Emma is included in everything, but we're also making sure to make certain things about just her.

I hope it gets easier once Spencer doesn't need 24 hour care.

Oh, and because of this thread, I had myself a good postpartum hormonal cry. Emma wiped my eyes.

Jeebus

K is acting out a bit now. It is tough when I'm rocking the baby to sleep and he wants me to put him down.

sorry guys. i didn't mean to make y'all cry.

i am just praying he does ok w/having a little brother.

Just a lurker here, but having been through this twice I wanted to offer some reassurance. The first three months after having our second I was a wreck. But I quickly saw that whatever attention our oldest lost from us she more than gained from her sister who adored her. At 6, 4 and 2 our girls are co-conspirators, confidantes, rivals, companions, friends, tormentors and allies. It will be an adjustment, for sure, but one that will bring much more joy than angst.

Good luck!

It was definitely hard for all of us to adjust from having one child to having two. My first was 2yo when the 2nd was born. He was very needy at that time and it was hard for us, especially since I was sitting down breastfeeding the baby almost non-stop.

What worked for us is having dh spend a lot of one on one time with the older child. They went and did a lot of things together, played together, etc. He (ds) also spent some time with Grandma which he thought was great. He got a LOT of attention from all the grandparents.

with latty. i read somewhere that if both kids want to sit on your lap and the baby doesn't need feeding, pass the kidlet off to daddy and spend time with the older kid. if you are lucky to have a grandparent around like beach, that is a great idea too.

This is a big fear of mine. Dh will (hopefully) be home for about two weeks after the baby is home and should be home for good when the baby is 3-4 months. K is very much a 's boy and doesn't like it when I have others in my lap, etc.

Hopefully it won't be as bad as I imagine.

those of you who have already been through this, thanks for the reassurance...i appreciate the input. i do have my ILs around, and they're very helpful--i'm sure that will be great. i seriously think i'm more nervous about this than i was about anything before Liam was born.

I am very afraid of this too. I have one child now and she is extremely attached to me. It's gonna be hard I think.