D, I've been psoting with you for YEARS now. Would you like ME (and maybe NoPeanuts) to remind you why you're better off without him? Because I can do that for you.

Every time you think of him with her, remember that she's going to be ignored and treated like a second class citizen and personal assistant, just like you were. He won't be any different, and he'll never change who and what he is.

You're an attractive, kind woman who can do a hell of a lot better than that asshole. Right now you need to concentrate on enjoying being alone though. It's been so long since you've had to see the world through your own eyes that you're going to need time to solidify your own identity. You've spent all these years doing what he wanted. You have to discover what it is that you want. Once you've done that, I think you'll see it the way I do.

Don't you let him keep you hanging on the sidelines. You're better than that.

I would threaten to come up there and kick your ass if you keep dwelling on this, but it would take me three days to get there and they'd lose my luggage.