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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-25-2005, 10:47 AM
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Loosing a child

Loosing a child is one of lifes biggest tragedys.

I lost my youngest child, she was my third child, but I am still pushing through. I am still trying to get my old dreams back that I used to have before I lossed her.



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Click here to enlarge I am sorry. I dont get the story though. Im a little confused. I hope she is returned though.
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I don't understand why your parental rights were terminated if you are indeed a fit parent. In most of the cases I've seen the court has bent over backward to reuinte families rather than put the child into foster care. Did you have a lawyer during the process? Do you have one now?
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There are alot of individuals who have never been harmed by CPS who do not understand that there are state officials who are profiting from children who are adopted from the state.
There are bonuses and rewards for children who are adopted.

I still had my other two children in my custody when my child was adopted.

Unless you have expereinced CPS knocking at your door, no one can really comprehend the intrusion and the impact they have on some families. Not all families get the same treatment as others.

If you do a search, you will find how many families out here that have been victumized by CPS. There are groups that exist all over America. They have stories similiar to mine, but becuase the general public beleives that CPS only does whats in the best interest for the chidren when the reality is, sometimes they do whats in the best interest for CPS especially when they make huge errors in placeing a child in the wrong care takers hands. Lots of times when a couple divorces, one or the other spouse uses the hotline as a means to gain full custody just as a ploy agaisnt the other parent while living separetly, CPS goes along with the game, and uses both parents to get the child in the system, while holding the allegations as pending as a reason to keep the child, then they apply for federal funding to support the child while the child is in foster care, then if an adoptive parent says they would like to adopt the child, then if CPS decides that this is what they want then they usually create a report stating that the parents are not getting along, and using the child as a weapon against one another giving them a reason to have the child adopted then the state profits from the bonuses and rewards that is a part of the safe families act law.

Without children in the system, would anyone have a job?
Without children in the system, could they apply for federal funding?
Without children being adopted, how would the states collect their bonuses and rewards?
Without people making hotline calls, how would they get children in their system?
Without children, there would be no need to apply for federal funding.
Did you know that the plan a year ahead of time of how many children will be abused before the year is even begun so that they can calculate how much funds they will need for the up coming year?
If you have never expereinced someone making a false hotline call on you, then you will never no what some families go through.
Did you know that someone can make a false allegation and not even need to prove it? Did you know that CPS can take familes to the juvenile court level and they don't need to prove the false allegation beyond a shodow of a doubt like murder cases do?
When famailies are accused of child abuse, it could come from your angry neighbor, then CPS takes over and comes up with their own conclusion some are true and some are not. If your lucky you will get an ohnest worker, but some families end up with the dishonest ones, and those are the ones who are the victums of the system.
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I really feel for you, a similar thing happend to my babies father. His ex wife got full custody and a child protective order because she claimed he had mental problems. Because he didnt have a rich daddy to pay for his attorney bills he didnt have one, and then they said he had to proove he was mentally stable by getting a full mental work up $500, that he didnt have. He got it done the day before court, and they wouldnt accept it becuase it wasnt "mailled in" and they couldnt get ahold of the phsycologist on the phone. So they said he had not proved it...the judge read the letter and said he wished he could do more, but at that time he couldnt....wtf! Fyi, the letter said that he was mentally normal and was having poor judgement becuase he was completly in love with his ex wife.
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Thank You for the support, I am moving forward still, pushing through all of the negative, and moving into the postive.

You must beleive that there is good at the end of the road, thats what I am doing. Contacting a few attorneys along the way too.


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It is very common to get into depression. After such revelations. It feels like the world is crashing. You feel helpless.We all have to go through a lot of ups and downs in life. However, my message to all the women who are facing complications would be to remain steadfast.Many prayers for you. Much support and love. XOXO
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Loosing a child is one of lifes biggest tragedys.

I lost my youngest child, she was my third child, but I am still pushing through. I am still trying to get my old dreams back that I used to have before I lossed her.



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Hello Sonja! Yes! You're right totally. You just reminded me of my first MC. It was tough for me. I couldn't believe. Sometimes, I got depressed but that made me stronger. So, yeah! I would advise you the same. Don't lose hope! Keep trying! I know it's tough but one day you'll be happy with a child in your lap. Don't just give up! I'm also trying next month through an IVF repro program.
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hey there! I hope you are doing great. I wish you best of luck. I cant tell you how sad I am. it is really painful .i am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you recover soon. I also lost my 1-year-old baby. it was a very painful thing. the most painful thing I ever went through. it was a miracle baby. we had her after two miscarriages. we had a lot of complications. and finally when we were happy it went away.
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I hope you are doing fine. I know miscarriages are never easy. I pray that you will be a mom soon. You still are able to conceive a baby and become a mother. you are a fertile woman. You are so lucky in this way. I was infertile and I was not able to conceive a baby. I always wanted to be a mother but It was not in fate. I decided to go for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. The clinic gave me a healthy baby. I am a mother now.
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I trust you are doing fine. I know premature deliveries are never ignorant. I hope that you will be a mother soon. Regardless you can imagine an infant and turn into a mother. you are a fruitful lady. You are so fortunate that you can imagine. I am trying to have through IVF. Many cycles failed for me. Now I am deciding to go for surrogacy. I have chosen a clinic in Europe. I really want your suggestions.
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post #12 of 21 (permalink) Old 07-07-2018, 04:19 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about this. I know it's very hard for you. It is not easy to deal with such situations. It becomes very difficult for a mother. I can understand your situation. I lost my 3-year-old boy in a car accident. He was seriously injured. He remained in the ICU for a month. I kept praying for his health. My DH and I were extremely upset. We did not know what to do. And after a month, he passed away. You can imagine our pain too. I wish there was a way to bring back our lost children. But unfortunately, there is not. You have to stay strong too.
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Hey there. I am confused to know your story. I don't know what are you trying to say? Did you lose your daughter in a miscarriage? Or did you get separated from your husband? So, your daughter is away. I hope things go well. And, I hope you get her back. Stay positive. I hope things work out for you. You are already a mom of two kids. Focus on them. Think wisely. And, then decide. Sending positive vibes. My prayers are with you.
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I hope you are doing good. I am really sad to know about it. Surely, you have got a painful story. I know you must be missing your daughter? Yeah, right? Don't be upset. I hope things work out for you soon. Concentrate on your future. You already have two kids. Focus on them. They need you. Make them a proud one. Sending my support and wishes for you. Stay positive. Keep a faith in yourself. Lots of love to you.
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Aww, I feel so terrible. This is such a huge loss. I can imagine your pain. I know how hard things must be for you. It's definitely not easy to deal with such situations. But you have to stay strong. Don't lose hope. Keep faith in yourself. Your child's memories will always be with you. Just remember the good days that you had with him. Don't cry because he's gone. You should think about your future now. Try to live happily. Stay safe. Everything will be fine. Wish you good luck. Much love for you.
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This is so horrible. You have gone through such a hard phase in your life. How old was your boy? I am really sorry for your loss. Losing a son is not at all easy. You must be Click here to enlarge from the inside. I wish I could bring him back into your life. But that is impossible. I can only offer words of condolence. Please be patient. You have to stay strong. You have to struggle to get out of this trauma. I will remember you in my payers. Hopefully, everything will be okay. Wishing you all the happiness of the world. Keep smiling.
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I am so sorry to hear about this. I know it is the worst situation ever. I have no words to give you some patience. Really its a terrible feeling for me. I'll pray that you become a mother soon. And you'll be a mother of twin babies. You know fertile couples feel so lucky. You should feel lucky also. Just stay positive. I hope things work out for you. Don't get upset. Things will b good for you. I wish I could bring your baby back. But I am really sorry. Keep faith in yourself. Lots of love for you.
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I am so sorry to hear about it.Yes you should keep moving forward.As it is the only option for us left.I lost my unborn baby in an accident.After that i got depressed and became infertile.Now i have decided to move forward as well.I want to be a mum.So i have contacted this clinic in Ukraine that helps in infertility treatment.I have chosen surrogacy as a mean to achieving my dream my happiness.You too can achieve your dreams in your own way.
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Hello, honey. How are you? I hope you're doing alright. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Trust me, I can understand how it feels. I had two MCs, too. Back when I was trying to conceive. It was the worst time of my life. I remember losing all hope. I blamed myself for it. And, I was really depressed. It was honestly a nightmare. I hope things get better for you. Be happy that you at least have the other two to look after. I was told I wouldn't be able to conceive again, after the second one. It was that hard! Good luck, honey, hope things get better!
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This is so sad. I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I know miscarriages are really hard to deal with. But you should stay strong. Time heals everything. Stop thinking about your past and move on. I hope you get well soon. My prayers are with you. Stay blessed.
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