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post #1 of 10 (permalink) Old 01-11-2008, 09:50 PM Thread Starter
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Can't seem to forget

I had barely joined this board when I was the trip mom for my son's eighth grade class. We had to walk down to the waterfront to catch a boat and my pace was much slower than that of a bunch of 14-year-olds. A young man came late and walked with me. There was something about him that I couldn't put my finger on, something great. He was remarkable. He was Demetreous Beals. I took a photo of him sitting alone on the ferry to the island a short time later.

After supper, as the sun began to set, I was here typing. For a moment the noise of children playing out by my window was Click here to enlarge by one loud wail of a siren. Just one. It sounded like it was right beside the house. I can still hear that sound.

I later discovered it was the first-response EMS unit, but they realized there was no need for more sirens, so the fire department and RCMP divers arrived in silence.

The local TV station showed groups of sobbing people standing on the shoreline as boats and divers looked for young Demetreous; He had gone swimming in the lake down by our house and never came out of the water.

He was a great basketball player, and when he was about 13, he wrote a letter that resulted in basketball courts near his house being refurbished.

Today I was trip mom again. The same group of boys are now in grade 9 and afterwards there was a basketball game and I might be going crazy, but it was almost as if I could feel his presence in the gym. I had to fight back tears.

It makes no sense to me that a boy I knew for only a few hours would have such an impact on me, and to be honest, I wish it didn't. It hurts.


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Some people just make an impact on our lives, no matter how long we've known them. Click here to enlarge Maybe it's because they are so special, maybe it's because something in them speaks to a part of us, of who we are. Who knows. The plus is that because he made an impression on you, he won't be forgotten Click here to enlarge
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What a fantastic post about him Click here to enlarge He must have really struck a chord with you. Thanks for sharing and I'm so sorry.
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That's so sad. I can understand. I am sorry for whatever happened. Anyways, your story is so beautiful. He has left an impact on you. He'll always be there with you. I hope everything gets fine soon.
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post #5 of 10 (permalink) Old 07-07-2018, 07:13 AM
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Some people make an impact on you without any reason. You don't understand why this happens. There is not always a reason for anything. But, this is how the human psyche goes. I am sure he will always be there for you. He will support you through your hard times. Take care.
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I am really sad to know about the incident. It is heartbreaking. But, that boy must have had a strong impact on you. This happens sometimes. And, you are unable to find a reason too. Thanks for making such a superb post about him. I wish you a good luck for your future.
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post #7 of 10 (permalink) Old 07-07-2018, 07:49 AM
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I feel so terrible. I am so sorry. His accident breaks my heart. I can't imagine how you must have coped up with this. But please be patient. Stay strong. Everything will be fine.
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I am so sorry to hear your story. It's really sad. I can understand your situation. It must have been really hard for you. But you have to try to forget everything. Everything will be fine gradually. Take care of yourself. Much love for you.
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Ohhh! I am sad to know about the incident. It must be really hard for you. Just try to forget and move on. I hope everything will be fine in the future for you. You have to move on from your hard times. Lots of love. Take care.
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Well, You wrote so impressively about him. Some people do leave the permanent impact on you. Maybe he is one of them. But that's so sad. I can understand. I am sorry for whatever happened. Anyways, your story is so beautiful. He has definitely left an impact on you. He'll always be there with you. I hope everything gets fine soon. Wishing you good and best of health.
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