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post #1 of 2 (permalink) Old 01-11-2010, 11:33 PM Thread Starter
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How do you explain death to a young child?

How do you explain to your young child that mommy lost the baby she was carrying in her tummy? Or tell them that a family friend lost his battle with AIDS? Or answer "Why did puppy have to die?" In an eighteen month period, I was faced with explaining all of these things to my four year old son (and his barely two year old little brother). I couldn't find any books that were specific enough, or age appropriate to give them the answers I wanted them to have. I finally found an illustrated book called "Mommy, What is Dead?" (at a website called, and it clearly explained the difference between body and soul, and the various ways people and animals die. The book offers the two most common beliefs as to what happens to the soul after death (“heaven” and reincarnation). "Mommy, What is Dead?" tells children that our memories are the way love continues on, and my kids found real comfort in that. It has gentle text, and simple pictures, and my young children easily understood its message. If you or anyone you know has a young child going through the loss of a loved one, I highly recommend this book!
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Thank you so much for this post. I've recently lost my baby in an MC. Although he wasn't born yet, I told my daughter that you'll be having a brother very soon. Now after the MC, I was totally blank on what to tell my daughter. She was so desperately waiting for her sibling. She asks me every day about the baby. She knows he was in my tummy. She talks to my tummy every day. She loves her unborn brother so much. I did not know what to do. I was shattered when this happened. But even more worried when I did not know how to explain this to my daughter. I'm so thankful to you for recommending a book. I really needed something at this moment. I'm surely going to read it and explain it to my daughter. I just hope she gets over it soon.
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