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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-22-2017, 02:59 PM Thread Starter
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post #2 of 20 (permalink) Old 09-03-2017, 12:16 PM
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My kids are all grown up now, but I am sure when I tell you that me and my husband did a lot of things differently than our parents. We tell our kids at least once a day that we love them and we are proud of them. We hug them a lot and support them and listen to them no matter what it was and we always talk about things. My son right up through high school would wake me up and tell me about his dates. I felt honored that he would do that. They both are growing up to be really fine people and we are still really close.
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It is indeed a known fact that this is perhaps a very sensitive subject for the topic of discussion! I think that perhaps no one in the world knows exactly how to raise a child. but we all know one thing for sure, no matter how ever one raises their child they only wanna make them happy and only live for them after they are born. But again, in this world of a rebel, the children never really understand the true feeling of a parent, a parent always gives their all to raises their child the best and get a little strict in some cases which are all out of their insecurities. And due to this rebel of insecurity and seeking for freedom, children always take their homage into saying that they will raise their kids in a way their parents never thought of doing so. In a way, it is good only if your paren6ts were really a pain in your ass, but if they weren't I think saying that statement could be a very worthless thing to say. Because we only realize it too late that what our parents did for us, was indeed the best. It is hurtful for them to listen that you are going to parent your child unlike them, because somewhere deep inside they know it, too that what they did for you was the best of what they could give to you, and that you will realize it later than what they had expected you to be grateful within. Let us face it, the truth is, no child can ever be happy with his parenting because we often look at others and compare ourselves with the other one which leaves us in a hurtful situation of betrayal, that perhaps we did with our parents, too. The child will always beef suffocated, while you will be there thinking what you did was the most accessible within your approach. The thing abuts a parent-child relationship is that there is no limited definition for the word 'freedom' in it. They demand freedom, but in most profound ways which you can never understand were even legit until before that moment. So, I guess I am not completely satisfied with the saying that, 'I will raise my child unlike i was, by my parents'.
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Iím sure that the way we brought by, canít be used any more for our children now. I didnít like these old ways which free of any dialogues. I decided to be different in my parenting. There are little things that will make things different. Our children are shy and quiet, so I avoid comparisons which lead to Labels. I try to be more careful for myself because I know that my children watch me all the time. My behavior proves to be far more powerful than words.
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Hello, dear parents. I love my kids. I want them to be the best. I let them make mistakes because children learn best on the edge of failure. Sometimes I do nothing to let them do everything and anything.I get them bored. Then I deal the matters. Their response will be great. The most important thing that I missed is the quiet discussion. I object shouting. It canít solve anything. I want to enjoy my children when they called me Mom.
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My kids are all grown up now, but I am sure when I tell you that me and my husband did a lot of things differently than our parents. We tell our kids at least once a day that we love them and we are proud of them. We hug them a lot and support them and listen to them no matter what it was and we always talk about things. My son right up through high school would wake me up and tell me about his dates. I felt honored that he would do that. They both are growing up to be really fine people and we are still really close.
This is lovely! It is such an inspiration. I would like to be like this with my children.
My parents weren't like this at all. I could never talk to them about my dates!
I think I will be different with my children. It is hard to predict, though.
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Hello dear, it is a very interesting question and it comes in mind of most of the couples when they face the time of parenting. Parenting is never an easy time and every couple takes it in a different way. Time is changing very quickly and it is not possible to Parent your children in the same way as you were raised by your parents. I would like to share my personal experience about it. I was raised in a small village and mentality of my parents was very different at that time. We didnít get such technology and such freedom to take our decisions in our childhood. The mentality of parents always changes with time and now we have a different mentality than our parents. We are living in the city now and we are going through a different era of Technology. When it comes to growing my children, I will do it in my way. I would like to give them more freedom to take their decisions in a career.
Time is changing day by day and it is very important for parents to change mentality with time. If you want to maintain your relationship and your mentality with your kids, you have to change with time because they are changing their mentality with time. Today, they want more freedom and more facilities as compared to our childhood. I wish I could give them the same environment that I got in my village but it is not possible in present time. They will need a different environment and different thinking ability with time. So there will be a difference always and we canít do anything about it. It is very important to give them a good education and positive attitude towards life to stay happy.
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Nice article! Each parent have different ways in raising their children and children nowadays are far different from our time as children. We have been in an analogue timeline while children now are techy. What I mean is we play with materials around and no computers that time while children are just sitting playing their games either on pc or cellphones. We do household chores like handwashing clothes, cleaning house with brooms and feather duster while nowadays, people do washing in washing machine and cleaning the house with vaccuum cleaners. I raised my kids with the best characteristics and best care that I got from my parents and raised them with the best that I can give. Probably there is just difference in ways but same reasons that how we raise our kids. Thanks a lot for this post!
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Nice topic! We parent our children just like our parents did to us.
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This is great! What our parents taught us and done to us, we give back to our children. Though there are different in ways but all were based on giving the best to our children for their future.
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Somehow, yes. My parents used to be angry when I tell them things before. As I grew up, they became more understanding and I became more vocal but I wished this should have happened before. Click here to enlarge

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PS: I never hated the way I grew up. I understood everything as I became matured. I don't feel unloved. It is just the way it is considering we are 6 siblings.
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PS: I never hated the way I grew up. I understood everything as I became matured. I don't feel unloved. It is just the way it is considering we are 6 siblings.

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I admired my parents in raising us and I do it with my children as I wanted my children to do unto their children.
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I do raise them differently because times have changed. I learned to listen to them what they are trying to say and what they are going through. personal injury attorney northern ky
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I am raised by my parent having good manners and right conduct. And I will raise my child with that and love others and not be a bully. little rock concrete services
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You can't possibly mimic your parent's ways of parenting, to begin with, but I'm definitely doing it differently in certain aspects that I thought my parents did wrong that affects me to this day. It's things parents don't realize that affect kid to adulthood negatively. The most hurtful thing my parents did was constantly compare our success and failures to others our age and they never amended us for being us. high calcium lime for lawns birmingham concrete contractors
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My method of discipline was smoother, based on communication and understanding. It was never a punishment but a time of reflection on how to be and do better for their own sake and their own benefits in their environment; self-respect, respect of others and boundaries; enacting compassion, kindness, and empathy; taking care of themselves; etc. screen repair tampa
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I didn't raised my child different from what I have been raised by my parents, I will support him on the things and dream he have until the end. Contact us at fort collins deck builders if you need help with your deck building and repair
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