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|01-06-2004 05:57 PM|
Absolutely 100%, no doubt about it
My dh smelled my fingertips for the first 2 weeks everyday
|01-06-2004 03:24 PM|
|salty||Dis ain't da ME.|
|01-06-2004 03:10 PM|
I found a little group on quitnet and they got really harsh on a poor woman who had lapsed. It was weird to read
I figured that wouldn't happen here though
|01-06-2004 02:42 PM|
Mominatrix, I totally agree that shame and contempt should not be a part of this group, and I'm sure it won't be an issue.
Bagheera, hang in there girl!!! You've made it almost a whole week!!!
|01-06-2004 02:21 PM|
and I feel like a raving lunatic and I want to cheat.
But I won't.
|01-06-2004 02:03 PM|
ITA. I have "quit" numerous times. and before, everytime i sneaked a drag from dh's cig (he just quit too) I will still insist I had quit.
Now, I feel differently about it. either you quit TOTALLY, or you haven't quit at all
|01-06-2004 01:08 PM|
Also, I don't think shame and contempt should be brought into it, since this is and will be one of the hardest things we have done.
|01-06-2004 12:34 PM|
|Dr. Nurse||Lying about stuff is just hurting yourself anyway.|
|01-06-2004 12:27 PM|
I just had that discussion with DH last night when he questioned if I'd really not smoked AT ALL yesterday ass. I said "What good would I be doing myself if I were to lie to YOU" He looked kinda dumbfounded .
It's true though. If we lie, we'll be hurting no one other than ourselves .
|01-06-2004 12:23 PM|
|01-06-2004 12:13 PM|
I think that this is really important, especially because we're really going to depend on one another for support via the internet. We aren't going to be able to smell each other to make sure nobody's been cheating. We're going to have to rely completely on one another's integrity and trust that we are all being honest with one another.
I know it sounds kind of hokey, and maybe it is, but being dishonest about your "cheating" with us is going to make it easier for you to lie about it to yourself, too. no
No matter how much support we give and get here, you're ultimately accountable to yourself. Be honest with us, and be honest with yourself. If you're struggling, say so. If you cheated, say so. If you're really feeling like a raving lunatic, say so. We're all here to help one another, and we CAN do this. We owe it to ourselves, our families, our friends, and to one another.