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02-20-2013 03:36 PM
SquigSoup Good luck with it all. It does sound stressful.
02-14-2013 06:30 PM
Turbo My carpools take my kids to school and then we pick up both carpools in the afternoon. If I find someone who can drive them in the afternoon and opt out of carpool, I've exchanged one problem for another as I would then be stressed trying to figure out how to get my kids to school(DD's school does not have on-site care and starts at 830 am). Dh can do afternoons more than he can do mornings so I figure I better try to work out the afternoon thing if at all possible.

Luckily, the Little League thing is not as intense as it appears on paper. I'll be honest - I'm a big time stresser. This is not the first time I've totally stressed out only to find reality is more gray than black & white. So glad this was the case here. Our schedule is crazy & hectic, but not impossible, so we'll soldier on and take it one day at a time.
02-14-2013 11:11 AM
Bethany I'm confused about the carpooling. If you hire someone to drive them, can't you opt out of the carpool and have them get only your kids?

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02-06-2013 11:40 PM
Strange I understand.

I had to rely on ds's biodad this fall to make all of our schedules work. the king douche himself.

school, work, kids, dh. I dont have time to do anything well anymore.
02-05-2013 01:18 PM
cheeky if the coach is retired, can he get your kid? If he's going to have practices that early....

I was thinking of you because I ran into a mom who started WOH and I asked her how it was going and she quit. She just couldn't do the running around with 3 kids and agreed as they are getting older, it's getting harder.

we are never home at night it seems.
02-05-2013 09:22 AM
Lyerin Emma has always had dance and cheer right after school got done. Carpooling with other parents has been the only way to make it all work.
02-04-2013 09:11 PM
Turbo Just steer him away from baseball, PAP. Seriously though, I can't believe that at 8 years old, beginner level, that it is 4 days a week. Soccer was 2 days a week plus a game on Saturdays, and practice didn't start until 5pm. Bass is right though, they mentioned that the earlier start time is due to the shorter days. So I guess I just gotta get through Feb/March.

Thank you everyone for the ideas, encouragement and support.
02-04-2013 08:05 PM
Originally Posted by Turbo View Post
I totally agree, PAP, that less activities would be the sane, reasonable thing to do. Ironically I thought limiting them to one activity each would be sufficient but hadn't counted on that one activity being 4 days a week during work hours.
Yeah at first I was going to recommend only one activity per kid at a time but you're doing that . That's what I do. My kids are little still so I'm sure I'll be in the same place in a few years.
02-04-2013 07:45 PM
Bass Ackwards
Originally Posted by Peent View Post
Baseball is so ridiculously time consuming
Dude, seriously.

Hopefully the 4pm practices can start later once the days start getting longer, too.
02-04-2013 05:30 PM
cheeky one of the moms I used to work with would leave work at 3, get the kids to the babysitter for after care and then come home. it was her "lunch hour" it was crazy.

i agree 4 pm is early, but I've got a kid in middle and a kid in HS and pick up times are around that time for sports, so you're in it for the long haul if your kids do sports.

i took a job where i work from home a lot, dh can work from home too.
we juggle with other working parents, with no set carpool schedule. often, if i'm picking up, i don't even know who might get in the van with us if any kids are standing around outside, I usually ask my kid if they need a ride.

older kids are a bit easier that way, they know where they live, etc.
02-04-2013 04:49 PM
Peent Baseball is so ridiculously time consuming

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02-04-2013 04:28 PM
MadCar How the hell are you going to have a 4 o'clock bb practice? ours are from 6-8 and are hard enough to make with dinner and homework.
02-04-2013 04:14 PM
Turbo I did finally hire a housecleaner though! She starts Thursday. I am seriously giddy about that.
02-04-2013 04:11 PM
Turbo We are definitely going to let the coach (no team mom yet) know that the 4pm LL practice is going to be tough but we'll be there as soon as we can. I really can't imagine that we will be the only parents in this boat. The coach is retired so he just may not have thought about work schedules. Let's hope anyway. And will definitely try to team up with another parent. It's a new team and no kids from the school/neighborhood so we'll make the effort to get to know the other parents. There other kids from her charter school at her dance studio, at least not in her time slot, but I think we have that one mostly nailed down except when DH has to take a business trip. It's like we get one thing nailed down and something else happens. I talked to my mom and she is going to help out one afternoon a week with LL so that takes some pressure off.

I would like to hire someone but we'd still have to do the after school pick-up (due to other kids in the carpool) so the timing bleeds into the activities. Still, I'm keeping this in mind because if I could make it worth, it'd be worth every penny!

I totally agree, PAP, that less activities would be the sane, reasonable thing to do. Ironically I thought limiting them to one activity each would be sufficient but hadn't counted on that one activity being 4 days a week during work hours.
02-04-2013 02:58 PM
mab Or do you know any parents from the kids' activities? What if you offer to chip in if they could do the driving for your kid in that activity? I know I wouldn't mind helping like that.
02-04-2013 02:57 PM
mab Can you hire a driving helper?
02-04-2013 02:55 PM
PunkassPie If you want to keep them in all of their activities then I would work on getting a reliable friend/family member to help you make that happen. For me personally and for my family, I would cut back on activities but I know most wouldn't want to do that. I hope you can find out something that works for you guys
02-04-2013 02:27 PM
Peent Omg turbo, i feel you. I just had to email the team mom because i literally cannot get gabriel to practice during the week. I was irrationally angry this morning at the assumption that parents can get their kids to activities during regular working hours. I think its going to work out. Have you tried the team mom for your son? That will at least help with getting him there. I hated asking, but they seemed happy to do it if it meant gabriel would be at practice.

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02-04-2013 02:16 PM
Lyerin It can be so stressful (and I currently only have one who has activities, the other is in daycare). I lucked out this year because DD's cheer coach has a daughter who is one year older than DD and at the same school. She picks the kids up 4 x a week from school and takes them to cheer so I almost never have to do it. Last year three of us worked it so that we could get them and take them to cheer. It sucked though.

Do you carpool to and from school and is that what the issue is? Can you find a carpool for your DD with someone from the school who also does dance? Ask at the dance studio and see if there are others in the same situation. Is there a school website/message board where you could ask about carpool solutions?

Talk to the dance studio and little league coaches too - let them know the situation, you may find other parents who want to carpool that way and/or they may cut your kids some slack if they are a bit late. DD goes late to every dance class because cheer doesn't get out until 15 minutes after ballet starts. I cleared it with the head of the studio and the teacher before the year started and said she wouldn't be there for at least 25 minutes. They okayed it because she only misses warmups and stretching and she's already warm and stretched because of cheer. It is still stressful.
02-04-2013 01:24 PM
Turbo "What's" the point... not "once" the point
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