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03-10-2014 03:10 PM
graceiha Yes, califred is right. I have been approved for Thor, but I did recently tell the SW that I want K as well. SW has to talk to her supervisor to find out A. If I get K, and B. Whether I can get him/them ASAP or do I have to wait for the next court date, which is on the 20th. I should find this out tomorrow or weds.

Thor has a room with a bed and everything set up, so I figured K can sleep in the toddler bed, Thor and K can share that bed, or Thor can sleep in his playpen.

I won't be a foster parent though, I will have custody of them until the mom gets her act together...if she does. If she doesn't, then it goes back before a judge and they decide what's next.

Jon is being a deadbeat asswipe. Yes, he's my son and I love him, but I can't fucking stand him right now. Apparently he has been up to no good in Florida and has to deal with the courts down there regarding that. I don't really want to go into detail about him, because right now it's just gonna piss me off even more. Maybe later I will give y'all the update on his bullshit.
03-10-2014 02:31 PM
califred Purim it sounds like both boys are in foster care until Grace gets approved as a foster parent.
03-10-2014 11:49 AM
Pudin So Thor is out to?
03-10-2014 07:55 AM
Julez Thanks great news!
03-08-2014 03:50 PM
graceiha I know, and I do care deeply about him. I made decisions based out of fear, not really thinking about how important it was/is that they stay together.

So...I will find out more regarding custody Monday, hopefully.
03-08-2014 03:35 PM
califred Glad to hear you had a change of heart and they are doing well . The other child just needed some love.
03-08-2014 02:31 PM
graceiha The boys are doing really well with the foster parents. K is almost potty trained and I am in contact with the foster mom getting regular updates. She texts me about 3-4 times a week. Apparently, K may not be as severe as everyone thought he was. FM says he is doing very well, speaking small sentences, no meltdowns....it's like he's a totally different child than when he's with the mom. Thor is great...happy and eating like a little piggy

Had the home eval yesterday and passed. Am now waiting on the sw to contact me with the next steps.
03-08-2014 02:27 PM
EvilBad How is everybody doing?
03-08-2014 02:22 PM
graceiha Just an update for those who are interested....I told CPS I will take K as well. After reading every post, as hurtful as it was to read, I realized how horrible it would be to separate them two.

So, thank you all for setting my ass straight
03-04-2014 10:28 AM
cosita
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I'm not sure that's a fair assessment of the facts. If it is then she should have called CPS. But maybe she was afraid she would lose all contact if she did that.
CPS doesn't barge in and say "hey gracie called us" which is why it's just speculation of "oh we think the aunt called this time".

And I'm pretty sure 5 months ago when Gracie was "going for custody" you were on the side of if what she was saying was true than yes, cps needed to be involved. Obviously, 5 months later with tales of starvation and abuse... cps needed to be involved.

How's her current pregnancy I wonder?
03-03-2014 01:13 PM
BlueKitten
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I hate when people do this. It's Monday, I wonder what happened with K?
Me too.
03-03-2014 12:50 PM
Bayou Lena I hate when people do this. It's Monday, I wonder what happened with K?
02-27-2014 08:30 AM
ticky
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I'm not sure that's a fair assessment of the facts. If it is then she should have called CPS. But maybe she was afraid she would lose all contact if she did that.
You are right Ima. We really don't have all of the facts. All we know is what Grace has told us. And there are 3 sides to every story. Her side, the other side, and the truth.

I'm not sure if that makes this situation better or not.
02-26-2014 07:23 PM
ImaC
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But even if they end up separated, you can't go in as a concerned adult and turn a blind eye to the abuse of one and only look out for the other.



You can't talk about ditching one the same you would a puppy that doesn't work in your house.



Five months ago she was expressing concern for Thor based on the what was going on with the older brother. She took thor, talked about getting custody of thor and was told if things were that bad CPS needed to be involved.



FIVE months later some random aunt called CPS not Gracie. Gracie had thor and apparently that was all that mattered. So despite her concerns for the living situation she only gave a rats ass about her own flesh and blood.



So IMO this is so far past what is ideal it's just depressing.



Rally around, support and give praise for the woman who left a kid in an abusive situation for 5 months and then speaks about tossing him like an animal.

I'm not sure that's a fair assessment of the facts. If it is then she should have called CPS. But maybe she was afraid she would lose all contact if she did that.
02-25-2014 12:26 PM
Pudin I didn't even know there was another baby besides Thor.
02-24-2014 04:14 PM
Peent This whole thing makes me sad and angry and I agree with cosita.

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02-24-2014 04:04 PM
cosita
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To me it doesn't seem like it will cause long term harm to separate siblings at the ages of 2 and 4 if there wasn't a home that could take both of them. They clearly have already spent a lot of time apart. Ideally they would be kept in touch with one another and could build as much of a relationship as they chose to.
But even if they end up separated, you can't go in as a concerned adult and turn a blind eye to the abuse of one and only look out for the other.

You can't talk about ditching one the same you would a puppy that doesn't work in your house.

Five months ago she was expressing concern for Thor based on the what was going on with the older brother. She took thor, talked about getting custody of thor and was told if things were that bad CPS needed to be involved.

FIVE months later some random aunt called CPS not Gracie. Gracie had thor and apparently that was all that mattered. So despite her concerns for the living situation she only gave a rats ass about her own flesh and blood.

So IMO this is so far past what is ideal it's just depressing.

Rally around, support and give praise for the woman who left a kid in an abusive situation for 5 months and then speaks about tossing him like an animal.
02-24-2014 03:50 PM
Pseudonymph
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And totally of topic, but I swear to God Naomi, you must have a friend/acquaintance that has experienced absolutely every single scenario, ever.

No, I do.


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02-24-2014 03:17 PM
dubby You may well be right LC, and it will probably come to that, but it's not really ideal, is it. The best thing would be for them to be together, I don't see how anyone can argue that fact, especially with such a fractured family life.
02-24-2014 02:43 PM
LaughingCow I clearly have a warped sense of the value of the sibling relationship. Maybe that's why I looked at people in confusion when they acted horrified that I didn't want to "give Caroline a brother or sister". I'm wondering if I love my sister too little or something.

To me it doesn't seem like it will cause long term harm to separate siblings at the ages of 2 and 4 if there wasn't a home that could take both of them. They clearly have already spent a lot of time apart. Ideally they would be kept in touch with one another and could build as much of a relationship as they chose to.
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