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| 03-26-2015 08:41 AM | |
| Amy |
I have one of these as well, and it sucks so hard for the kids. He is always the victim in their lives. He quit his job in June, paid for 1 month of child support in February so he wouldn't go to jail and has had no visitation with the kids since June. He will snap chat them occasionally telling them how much he misses them and wants to see them and when they are in the same town as him to make it happen he is conveniently busy - but with an amazing excuse for them. I'm left holding the bag and trying to convince the kids that it has nothing to do with them or what amazing people they are that he can't be there for them right now. My ex blames me for moving an hour away and that is his reasoning for not seeing the kids. At this point the child support would be nice, however, if the choice was between him being a healthy, decent role model, supportive parent or getting child support I would choose the parent. I don't believe he will ever be a supportive parent though so the child support would be nice so I could have more time with the kids to make up for his short comings. |
| 03-26-2015 08:32 AM | |
| mrs*skankypants |
yeah, my father did this for about 10 years between me being 6 and 16. you can imagine how that went for him once i became an adult. 
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| 03-26-2015 08:10 AM | |
| Rapture |
I understand both parents can be shitty abandoners, it's not uncommon for Navy wives to ditch out from kids. I just don't understand the lack of communication, the telling me to talk to his lawyer for answers and just trying to disappear. My son has always had a rocky relationship with his dad, but my daughter was his princess, and now he dropped her for his gf, it seems. Ugh, just such a disgusting person!!! |
| 03-26-2015 03:08 AM | |
| dubby |
You already know this, but this selfish i can't parent right now because blah blah blah me me me, is not restricted to deadbeat men, I know of two women/"moms" who are equally selfish and useless. Definitely go for custody and an increase in child support. What a sad sorry son of a bitch. I feel for your children, because even though they will eventually figure out that he's a loser, it fucking hurts. My children are the main reason I get up in the morning, I can't imagine just walking away, even briefly. 
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| 03-26-2015 02:48 AM | |
| aliciameme |
What a dick! I hope he transitions into a decent father! And I would totally file for more support. If you have them 100% of the time he can pay 100%! |
| 03-25-2015 10:24 AM | |
| SquigSoup | I'm so sorry your ex is being a dick, Rapture. |
| 03-25-2015 08:38 AM | |
| Lyerin |
What transition is he talking about? Who the fuck even talks like that?   Unless it's substance abuse or mental health treatment, that kind of shit is inexcusable. You should file for full custody. |
| 03-25-2015 08:35 AM | |
| Olive |
i have asshole non-present parents, and i still will never ever be able to imagine a reason short of mental breakdown that i would want to take a break like that from my kids. sure, we all dream of vacations without kids asking us for things, but that's because we're in it 24/7 100%. these asshole parents who do this shit--i don't understand. what the fuck is he taking a break from for 3 fucking months?! he's not even with them every day. omg this shit makes me insane. |
| 03-25-2015 08:28 AM | |
| doulapunk |
Your kids do not deserve that. It really does sound like a sex change not thatthereisanythingwrongwiththat-ask him "transition to what, decent dad?"
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| 03-25-2015 08:26 AM | |
| Turtle Monkey |
i cant imagine anything in my life coming before my kids, ever ever ever. that is horrible. im sorry.  this does sound like a really good time to file for 100% custody. print the email and talk to your attorney.
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| 03-25-2015 08:18 AM | |
| LaughingCow | That man is a waste of human flesh. I'm so sorry for your kids, Rapture. They deserve so much better. I know you're giving them everything and that you're meeting their needs. It's just such a shame that their dad can't handle his "transition" while also being a parent. You don't just stop being a parent for months on end unless you're hospitalized. |
| 03-25-2015 06:58 AM | |
| Lurkey Lou | my ex quit a great job with great hours and benefits to become an OTR truck driver who is gone pretty much 6 days a week. He basically checked out of the parenting game ........yeah, I don't get it. I could never pull that shit, I guess that's why he feels it's ok for HIM to do that, when we share ( supposedly ) 50/50 custody? WTF ! So sorry Rapture. |
| 03-25-2015 06:14 AM | |
| Express66 |
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I will never ever ever ever infinity understand how people could do that.
I am so sorry for all these kids that have shitty asshole dads 
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| 03-24-2015 08:21 PM | |
| PunkassPie | I will never ever ever ever infinity understand how people could do that. |
| 03-24-2015 07:57 PM | |
| Small Town Ho |
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The only way I would look on that as other than repugnant is if he was going into intensive mental health or substance abuse tx.
I know of two instances like this. One was for bpd treatment and one was for rehab. If it's not something like that he's an asshole. My dad took several years off for himself. Then came back around for a little while. It's now been nearly 13 yrs since he's bothered to contact us and I will never forgive his sorry ass. He lives about a mile from you and if I saw him on the street I would ignore him. Your kids will be better off in the long run. What a fucking tool. I have no sympathy for deadbeat parents. |
| 03-24-2015 07:29 PM | |
| good2bgeek |
My son has seen his dad 2x in his 3.5 years. I'm actually grateful to not have his interference. Having no expectations of him from the jump was the best thing for me/us. So very sorry for your kids. What a douche! |
| 03-24-2015 05:53 PM | |
| Dixie Wrecked |
What a fucking cumtowel.  Mine likes to move to another state when he's ready for a break, and then bounce back into their lives when he's ready again. 
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| 03-24-2015 05:19 PM | |
| max e. pad | i agree, if your parenting time is 100%, he can pay for that increase in expense. |
| 03-24-2015 03:48 PM | |
| Twinklestars | File for full custody and an accompanying raise is child support. |
| 03-24-2015 02:21 PM | |
| Rapture |
He's not. He's all involved in roller derby and himself. He's not going away, he just sucks. I am so disappointed in him. I feel so sad for my kids, I hate him. |
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