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01-01-2016 05:08 PM
nocturnal emission Well that was easy

Poor kid is sick and didn't do anything.

Me on the other hand, hangover extraordinaire.
12-31-2015 07:15 PM
Pudin Cam
12-31-2015 05:11 PM
PunkassPie
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does that mean we can edit?
or that mean that we can't edit?

Cause while correcting typos would be nice,
Sybermoms hallmark feature is you can't edit your posts to backpeddle out of trouble. lol
yes this
12-31-2015 12:29 PM
silly_me_2
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This has been fixed.
does that mean we can edit?
or that mean that we can't edit?

Cause while correcting typos would be nice,
Sybermoms hallmark feature is you can't edit your posts to backpeddle out of trouble. lol
12-31-2015 12:10 PM
MadCar
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well maybe he needs to find some different friends if his current friends think the only way you can have fun is to drink. That isn't true. And there are kids out there like that. But unfortunately on the social ladder those are are the "losers". As per all the 80s movies we watched.

I am very thankful mine are gaming nerds.
It's not 80s movies promoting that. Watch any seriez on MTV or ABC family (soon to be called Freeform) and all of the teens drink/do drugs or are very sexually active.
12-31-2015 11:44 AM
silly_me_2 Yes it has
12-31-2015 10:45 AM
CAM Oh has this thread moved on to the "you're a bunch of holier than thou bitches that don't understand modern teenagers" phase?
12-31-2015 08:03 AM
VSAdmin
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Wasn't there a brief period of time when we could edit our posts?
This has been fixed.
12-31-2015 07:41 AM
Diz well maybe he needs to find some different friends if his current friends think the only way you can have fun is to drink. That isn't true. And there are kids out there like that. But unfortunately on the social ladder those are are the "losers". As per all the 80s movies we watched.

I am very thankful mine are gaming nerds.
12-30-2015 06:51 PM
nocturnal emission
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I get what you're saying. And even if all his group of friends do drink, it doesn't mean I need to let him organize something around that.

After the other night, I told him his friends are welcome to come over bye if there is no drinking. He "respectfully' rolled his eyes (roll) and said thanks but he's not sure what they're plans are.

We have cancelled our plans for Montreal. We had planned on mtl *after this week when we realized we wouldn't be hosting his crew. Now I just want to stick close to home regardless of where he is.
Wasn't there a brief period of time when we could edit our posts?
12-30-2015 06:48 PM
nocturnal emission
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Your op was like well they are going to drink so might as well plan the party around that as if there's no other way. and that just isn't so. They don't all drink anyway and you don't just give up is they do
I get what you're saying. And even if all his group of friends do drink, it doesn't mean I need to let him organize something around that.

After the other night, I told him his friends are welcome to come over bye if there is no drinking. He "respectfully' rolled his eyes (roll) and said thanks but he's not sure what they're plans are.

We have cancelled our plans for Montreal. We had planned on mtl *after this week when we realized we wouldn't be hosting his crew. Now I just want to stick close to home regardless of where he is.
12-30-2015 05:07 PM
silly_me_2
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Sillyme2, that's what I'm talking about. I do have and have always had these conversations. At least acknowledge that this approach is needed no guarantee that you can keep your kids away from drugs.

(Defensive rant over)
Your op was like well they are going to drink so might as well plan the party around that as if there's no other way. and that just isn't so. They don't all drink anyway and you don't just give up is they do
12-30-2015 04:30 PM
nocturnal emission Sillyme2, that's what I'm talking about. I do have and have always had these conversations. At least acknowledge that this approach is needed no guarantee that you can keep your kids away from drugs.

(Defensive rant over)
12-30-2015 03:59 PM
silly_me_2 There is certainly oh no waving of magic wands to get teens to say no to drugs or alcohol. It's ongoing conversations and some hammer dropping and sharing of personal experience and talking too blue on face on occasion.

My 19 year old has the occasional drink at home with Dh and I. He knows that his uncle is an alcohol optic and his grandfather and great grandfather too.

He knows that when I when his uncle was caught drinking and driving as a teen 20 years ago the cops poured out the alcohol and called me to come get him and no charges were filed. And he knows our friend caught drinking and driving years later spent time in joe arpaioes tent city jail on Julie for the same offense and lost his job and such. He knows that underage drinking and drinking and driving is serious business. And we talk about pot and how easy it is to lead to other drugs cause people do stupid shit growing it nowadays to make it stronger and harsher.

And we will keep talking openly and honestly about this stuff and so far it's working. No magic just lots of heart to heart talks and research and some praying and fingers crossed too.
12-30-2015 03:28 PM
Pudin Well if he is smoking pot I would have a serious come to Jesus with him about modern pot and how it is altered to have higher THC content, covered in fungicides etc and not safe for a developing mind.
12-30-2015 01:58 PM
nocturnal emission I know. I'm super defensive at the moment.

I thought I would lights out awesome at teen parenting

Truth is they WILL do what they want. But I do not want to have that laissez faire attitude. But I also don't know the right thing to do when I'm armed with the (first hand, lived it, did it) knowledge that at the end of the day he will make whatver decision he wants, regardless of everything I thought I taught him.

As for the weed, no, I'm NOT happy. It was pretty easy in theory when they were younger to say "gee, I hope if it's one or the other that its weed and not alcohol". Alcohol kills. Weed does not. However, now that's its a realty, it's not that simple... For all the real, factual reasons noted in the posts above.

Like I said. I'm spinning my wheels.

As I speak, he's in room eating Doritos and watching Netflix documentaries not in crack alley. I'm trying to tell myself I am overthinking this and need to unclench my pearls.
12-30-2015 01:34 PM
Pudin I never said that stuff NE. I said I wouldn't fucking allow my kids to use drugs or alcohol in my house or host it for their friends. I think contemplating that at all is bat shit crazy. I hate the stereotypical attitude about teens that "they will do it anyway" well of course they will if you fucking offer them up your house to do it and they have friends that do. If I found out one of mine was behaving like that I would punish them. No more car, no more privileges.
12-30-2015 12:28 PM
nocturnal emission I can see the age old sm holier than thou my perfect rare rainbow indigo kids would never do those teenage things and I'm clearly a better parent than you because your wayward, juvenile delinquent kid does.

I never said I was ok with any of what he's doing.

But I'm glad that you can all just wave your magic wands and "tell" your kids not to. Or! Better yet, that you "didn't raise your kids" to get into any teenage bullshit. Good for you guys
12-30-2015 11:18 AM
Pudin Exactly, Shack.

I hope your pot-tea is organic and free of fungicides!
12-30-2015 07:57 AM
mamashack again, last night the kid hung out at the game cafe with his nerd posse and then they went to one of their houses, played nerd games, drank some pop, ate some potato chips and he came home at 11:30pm
all kids were 16 to almost 18
no booze, no pot

boys will be boys, teens will be teens

I certainly know teens who are drinking, doing drugs and getting knocked up but it's not ,in any way, some universal "throw my hands up because that is just what all teens do and you can't fight it so you might as well make it safe" sitch says the mom who is not a prude, who offers her teenage son a glass of prosecco or wine when we are celebrating something and who openly drinks pot tea most nights so she can sleep.
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