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| 08-20-2003 01:43 PM | |
| Dea |
It sounds like he is acting out because he is not getting enough attention. Negative attention is still a form of attention and when you are timing him out it just makes the behavior worse I would imagine. I would try another approach of pulling him to you and talking about why the behavior he is doing is wrong and have a talk about it. Then I would make him tell you why it was wrong and apologize. Then give him a hug. I could be talking out of my ass here, but it worked with all the kids I ever took care of and it worked for my Mom. Good luck. |
| 08-20-2003 11:27 AM | |
| beachbum |
Night Owl, Are you sure you are not at my house?  This sounds just like my 2 yr old. My two youngest are 15 months apart so she had a hard time understanding that the baby needed attention also. When I was nursing I would sit her up there with me and let her drink her milk, etc. During sleep time I would have them do a quiet activity like looking at books, coloring, playing computer games, etc. I am not sure how old your little one but it will work out. Don't worry!
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| 08-20-2003 11:23 AM | |
| Night Owl |
Only trouble is, time out doesn't always calm them down. Sometimes just the mention of it is enough to cause a tantrum. As for positive discipline, we do that also. When he does what he is supposed to do we praise him and tell him what a big boy he is. I also make special time to hold him and just be with him. I have crayons and other arts and crafts that he can do while I'm on the computer and we have books that I read to him. But sometimes he still pretends to be a LOUD train when Aimee is asleep, or decides that it is time to ride the dog like a horse. And when I tell him to stop, he often just keeps right on going as if I had said nothing.
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| 08-20-2003 05:57 AM | |
| Jovi | I agree with mattsmom |
| 08-19-2003 05:52 PM | |
| maelstrom | I don't like time outs as punishment. I plan on using time outs as a calm them down method, hug them until they are calm rather than isolate them but my guy is only 19 months old so take my advice with a grain of salt. I like positive discipline. Talk to him when he is behaving and tell him how much you like that behaviour. Is 3 too young to come up with his own punishment? Get his input into it. btw, I love Barbara Coloroso, Kids are worth it for its discipline style. Very practical advice. |
| 08-19-2003 03:20 PM | |
| Pudin | http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp |
| 08-19-2003 03:12 PM | |
| Night Owl |
Well, it's good to know my son isn't the only one doing it.
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| 08-19-2003 02:48 PM | |
| todolist | I have no ideas. My ds does the same thing. |
| 08-19-2003 02:35 PM | |
| Night Owl |
Need some parenting help I need some help with CW. First, I'd like to say that he has had a lot of changes recently. We had a new baby, then we moved, then our dog died and we just lost another dog to parvo. Now, to the problem. We are working on teaching him things like being quiet when Aimee is asleep, or not sitting on the dog. When he does the things he is not supposed to do, we put him in time out. This is usually in his room. If I think it is nap time, I usually put him in our room. Not that it matters. He refuses to stay. And when I finally do convince him to stay, he sits back there crying and screaming, "I neeeeed you Mommy!" or "I need my daddy!" or "You hold me!" This is breaking my heart. I need to be able to give consequences for behaviour that means something. But I can't stand to have him back there bawling his eyes out and looking scared.  .Any ideas on what else I could do? I've thought about taking a toy away for a few minutes. But that would just get me another tantrum and then he go get one of his other bazillion toys. wugh. |
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